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Fiel Wrote:I'm throwing out the OP's question as simply too ambiguous. We could talk about situations of different kinds of love for months and still not cover everything.
Agreed. I just don't like the instant verdict of 'shes a slut' without even the remotest bit of context.
Being a slut requires acting, not feeling.
It's not having what you want - It's wanting what you've got.
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You can't love two people at the same time in a sexual way. Not sexual, but family wise is different.
Imo peach doesn't know what she wants don't bother with her.
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OB3LISK Wrote:You can't love two people at the same time in a sexual way.
How/why?
Because you haven't?
It's not having what you want - It's wanting what you've got.
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As long as both of the guys are cool with it, then it's fine.
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Cactuar Wrote:So, I noticed a lot of people saying that a woman who loves two men is a slut. How so?
Bloody double standards ingrained into our minds as we grew up.
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"If you love two people at the same time, choose the second, because if you had really loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second."
- Johnny Depp
Guess you better hope you were the second
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Connor Wrote:"If you love two people at the same time, choose the second, because if you had really loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second."
- Johnny Depp
Guess you better hope you were the second 
But who is to say you're actually in love with the second? It could be misplaced affection, or a plethora of other things. Also, as Eosian said, you obviously are now no longer able to love both your mother and your father, nor are you able to love any of your sibblings.
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Here's a good one, you ask your girlfriend if she'd have a 3 some with one of her friends. She, with no hesistation says sure, willing to fullfill your "kinky" fantasy because she loves you and trusts you. However does that mean you still love her?
Same with watching porn.
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depends on cases... i guess...
but generally I don't like girls holding 1+ relationships for getting more $$;
I also don't like guys have 1+ relationships for more sex partner(s)
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It really depends on what she does with each guy. She can go the less-than-honest route of being with both without telling the other, she can pick one (good luck with that, though), or not be with either of them. If both of them have feelings for her, and she toys with that, that's horrible.
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Feeling it is alright in my book. I don't know about true love, but once you're "in love", your perspective can be quite limited and fixated around your partner. If you can see beautiful sides in different people, and take to them, well, what's wrong with that? You just have to reach a compromise with your partner so as to keep the relationship going. Whether or not you think they are fine with it, whether or not they are fine with it, whether or not YOU are fine with it, etc.. they all contribute to what you should do and should not do.
I don't think anyone is in any guilt until the crime has been committed.
P.S: I actually don't feel family love. Truth.
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Nothing, at all. Just the fact she has to make a choice between one of them, because having both wouldn't work very well. Unless the other guy doesn't care, then it's fine. :o
You don't really choose who you love, or how many you do, but you must make a choice between one of these. Or like it was said, fate will take care of it.
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I'd think she was insane at first, then see what she wants out of the whole ordeal.
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Anyone who loves two people at a time just needs to make up his/her mind. Whatever the case.
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Friend once told me:
Him: "Do you believe you can love two people at the same time?"
Me: "I wouldn't know, but I don't think so."
Him: "So how many people have you truly loved?"
Me: "Uh.. I think maybe 2"
Him: "So if both of those girls you met at the same time, which one would you choose?"
Me: "I.. don't know"
then I left it at that.
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Hey! I went through this kind of situation. I was the first guy.
I was later told by her that she feels for me more and again many other times.
I would say that woman in your question doesn't know what she is doing/thinking.
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Stopped reading the posts once I saw "slut" twice.
But in response to the question I would suggest that the person claiming they're in love is probably confusing it with infatuation.
Kalovale Wrote:P.S: I actually don't feel family love. Truth.
Neither did I until I had a niece.
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The only people who truely need to approve of it are those involved.
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Indecisive. Not sure of her feelings.
A girl who loves two guys does not make her a slut.
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Changing the context and situation around a bit. What if she had sex with the 2nd guy?
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