So my fiance is joining the Air Force.

Forgot to mention that the military has several support institutions for significant others - The navy version are called "Ombudsmans" and are basically an information and support link between the sailors and those left at the homefront. The Air Force has their version, I'm sure. You'll also have all the other girlfriends, fiancees, wives, boyfriends, and husbands of military people in your community, who will be there to share both the pain and pride that you'll feel. You will not be alone, and I wanted to emphasize that.

Everything will be okay. That's all I wanted to say and am going to say.

We're currently making plans for our wedding. It will be a small affair, since that's all we can afford at the moment, and his auntie offered to let us have the ceremony in her backyard. His dad is offering to cater (hooray Hawaiian food!) I actually love the idea of a small backyard wedding. We can have a huge celebration for the extended family, friends, etc. in a few years and renew our vows or something like that. Planning our wedding is actually one of the few things that I enjoy about him making this decision.

So no, leaving him is not an option.

I support your decision!

*E-Support! It matters*

I hope you are right, but I don't know this guy. I know Throws is in it for the long haul, but is it him not wanting to get married or their situation holding them back?

Honestly, if I had to point the finger at one of us as the reason we're not married yet, it would have to be me. If tomorrow I were to call him and say, "let's go to Vegas and get married," he would drop what he was doing, pick me up, and we'd get married.

I wanted us to be "stable" before getting married. I wanted at least one of us to be done with school and have a decent job. We both come from very large families (those islanders, I swear, they have nothing better to do than pop out babies) so if we invite just family, our wedding is already big. We don't have the money for a huge wedding, so we haven't gone through with it yet.

What exactly is he going to be doing in the Air Force? Because a lot of time, people associate military with soldiers and guns and killing some people in some desert when it's just infantry that does that. There are other services to do when joining the military that doesn't even put you in that position. Similarly, for the Air Force.

He hasn't signed anything official yet, but he is looking into a couple different jobs (something having to do with communication, and I can't remember the others off the top of my head.) Thankfully, he is colorblind (though I forget which type of colorblindness he has) so that keeps him away from some trouble.

Has he actually talked with a recruiter, or is he just really considering it seriously?

He's been talking to a recruiter, and did pretty well on the ASVAB. He has to get some medical thing cleared (he happened to be sick the day he was scheduled to do his physical, and was too stubborn to put it off til later) but no, it's not just talk. He's actually going through with it.

But if you question whether you will have a non-pineappleed up family or not, you should really think about the consequences staying with the guy, and the consequences for leaving him.

My fiance is fantastic with children, and would make a wonderful father. I don't question that at all. Hell, he had to help raise his own little brothers and sister due to his dad being an utter moron when he was growing up. What I meant about having a non-fucked up family is that I want to give our children a good childhood because ours weren't all that great.

He came to visit me on a whim tonight. I wasn't supposed to see him until Saturday. Somebody's gonna get laid!

He came to visit me on a whim tonight. I wasn't supposed to see him until Saturday. Somebody's gonna get laid!

Glad to see you're feeling better.

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Glad to see you're feeling better.

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Same, and I bet her fiancee will be feeling damn fine after tonight too lol.
Southperry feels like a family to me, so it's always good to see family happy!

(and yes, Greg and Opeth are the crazy uncles that sneak up on you and give you wet-willies).[/COLOR]

Well, Throws, everything will be aight. Go out there and kick the world's ass for me!

And if you're ever feeling down, just call me up and I'll draw you a special pair of boobs, free of charge. : )

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Same, and I bet her fiancee will be feeling damn fine after tonight too lol.
Southperry feels like a family to me, so it's always good to see family happy!

(and yes, Greg and Opeth are the crazy uncles that sneak up on you and give you wet-willies).[/COLOR]

Yeah, totally this.

I'm late for this thread but I wanted to support you. Your first post made me want to give you a hug So, just go through it, you're an awesome girl, and you deserve to be happy with your man. Eventually, we'll see a baby Throws and SP.net will have its first baby!

. Eventually, we'll see a baby Throws and SP.net will have its first baby!

Im betting a couple of years will pass before this happens.

I know several people in the military. One of my good friends served a tour of duty in Iraq in the Airborne, that was some crazy shiite. It's definitely not how the recruiters describe it, but it's also not necessarily a shiity existence. Some people enjoy it, some people hate it. Definitely not for everyone, but it can be a good experience. Obama is probably going to pull the military out of Iraq pretty soon, and so it is likely your fiance won't be going there, and that's the place you're most likely to get killed in.

The serious problem with the military is all the moving. If you're trying to raise kids, it's hard on them because they lose all their friends every couple years. Expect to be placed in anywhere ranging from Germany to Japan or whatever. But, once your fiance gets out of the Air Force, he can go to college pretty much free.

By the way, my Army, Navy and Marines friends consider the Air Force as the "easiest" branch, if that's of any consolation. Marines get shot at, but how are the terrorists going to shoot at a plane mechanic in the middle of a fortified base, or at one of those stealth bombers nuking the crap out of them from near-orbit?

Airforce from my understanding of the peers of who my father worked with during his service worked majoritly around either flying/mechanics with relevance to planes and radio frequency in general. But I wouldn't consider the Airforce a push over just because it's more of the chairforce. My friends older brother died training.

Your fiance is making a good decision if he decides to join, especially in the crisis were in now. You get free housing, free trips across the world, a gurranteed stability. Oh, and if hes being a prick, and I mean something as miniscule as him not helping you wash the dishes you can complain to his commanding officer . My mom was one vindictive peach with that, my dad wouldn't go grocery shopping with her, and his officer (at the time randy, who is best friends with our family) made him scrub toilets to some ridiculous ratio of hour at a grocery store was equilavent to 60 hours of toilet scrubbing . Lets say my dad was puce whipped until retirement LOL.

I guess worse situation is that the airforce will relocate you and your fiance (if you so choose to be enlisted as his wife by that point) you'd have to find a school which would take your credits.

Then again I'm probably reittering what maspan said. Depending on how many years you have to dedicate (or how close you are to bachlor/associate) you should consider the transission after you get whatever degree you are going for at present time.

Im betting a couple of years will pass before this happens.

Don't go around crashing my dreams. Silly Vlad.

Don't go around crashing my dreams. Silly Vlad.

Its not silly. They say they don't have that much of an income, and the dad is going to the air force, maybe stationed away from where they live. I don't think it is good for the child to be raised in an environment where the dad isn't there to see him grow up. It is better, in my opinion, for the dad to be there. So unless they know if and where he is stationed it might be best for the both of them to wait before having children.

Its not silly. They say they don't have that much of an income, and the dad is going to the air force, maybe stationed away from where they live. I don't think it is good for the child to be raised in an environment where the dad isn't there to see him grow up. It is better, in my opinion, for the dad to be there. So unless they know if and where he is stationed it might be best for the both of them to wait before having children.

I'm pretty sure that's not what he meant by that comment.

having several close friends in the airforce, 4 stateside, 1 overseas in japan, and 4 more gearing up for basic, i do have to say they are probably in the best hands militarily. only 2% of the airforce sees combat, and of that 2% significantly less are on the ground in it. they count mid-air refuelers in their 2% as well, the one in japan is doing that currently and he is still listed as non-deployed. a friend of the family told me a story recently about the differences with the airforce and the rest, which boils down to: he was in the national guard living in a tent city building bases in the middle east. he had to build the airconditioned condos and living quarters assigned to the air force guys when they got there. when the building was finished the airforce was moved in and he had to continue living in his tent, a quarter mile from those quarters, for 4 more months.

you mentioned communications when you were talking about it. i would assume that he is at least moderately experienced with electronics, if this is so and he gets such a job, he may never leave the states, and if he does it will probably be a base way behind lines just routing com traffic or working on a computer all day.

its a scary thought when loved ones join the military and there are definitely many emotions that go along with it. the thing to remember is be optimistic, the odds are on his side, he loves you, and he will eventually get to do whatever it is he wants with his life, whether it be this, or anything else, including providing a life and living for your family for the rest of your lives.

(ps, if he decides to stay in, the air force has a ridiculously good retirement for its people, you guys would be set forever, seriously )

tl;dr odds are for him, and air force gets the goods where it counts on deploy

Thanks everyone who replied in this thread. It was exactly what I was hoping for, since I don't have friends who have been in the military and I knew that many SPers do.

RE: Having Kids - We are in no rush to have babies just yet. My fiance wants to be around for his kids, so we are waiting on that. Also, it makes no sense financially for us to start popping out babies ASAP. Both of us do want children though, so it is definitely something we are considering.

Thanks everyone who replied in this thread. It was exactly what I was hoping for, since I don't have friends who have been in the military and I knew that many SPers do.

RE: Having Kids - We are in no rush to have babies just yet. My fiance wants to be around for his kids, so we are waiting on that. Also, it makes no sense financially for us to start popping out babies ASAP. Both of us do want children though, so it is definitely something we are considering.

Less talky, more baby makin.

Its not silly. They say they don't have that much of an income, and the dad is going to the air force, maybe stationed away from where they live. I don't think it is good for the child to be raised in an environment where the dad isn't there to see him grow up. It is better, in my opinion, for the dad to be there. So unless they know if and where he is stationed it might be best for the both of them to wait before having children.

My dad was frequently deployed for 6 months at a time on a ship with little to no communication home. It was hard, but we got through it. That being said, some of the more rigorous duty assignments can be limited to people without dependants (wife/kids)

RE: Having Kids

Name your kid Loose Southperry or Loose Goggles or Southperry Goggles.

Thanks everyone who replied in this thread. It was exactly what I was hoping for, since I don't have friends who have been in the military and I knew that many SPers do.

My grandma was flattered that I used her story for such a purpose.

RE: Having Kids - We are in no rush to have babies just yet. My fiance wants to be around for his kids, so we are waiting on that. Also, it makes no sense financially for us to start popping out babies ASAP. Both of us do want children though, so it is definitely something we are considering.

I expect there to be live video coverage when you two decide to.

I expect there to be live video coverage when you two decide to.

You'd like that, wouldn't you Prov? My nakie hubby is for my eyes only!

And um. First child will be named Kevin if it's a boy, Athena if it's a girl.