Baklava Wrote:my sister's friend and I were texting about some pomegranate that happened the other day(no detail k) and somewhere in those texts she said "but you act too nice!".

not sure if any of you are psychological pros or anything, but is that meant in a positive or negative way?

IS BEING TOO NICE BAD? IDFK
DON'T WANT TO ASK AND TEXT HER BACK AGAIN, THAT WOULD BE CREEPY AS FU'CK.

FrozNlite Wrote:I THINK SOMEONE'S GOT A CRUSH ON HIS SISTER'S FRIEND ;DDD.

FrozNlite Wrote:Won't give us details + freaking out over the psychological aspects of one phrase used in the text conversation....I THINK SOMEONE'S GOT A CRUSH ON HIS SISTER'S FRIEND ;DDD.

DrRusty Wrote:basically this

Eosian Wrote:Really the meaning is 100% dependent on what that statement is a "but" off.

"you should have stood up for yourself but you're too nice!"
"I thought you were going to be an ass but you're too nice"
"I'd date you but you're too nice!"

See? Totally contextual.

Eosian Wrote:Thats girlspeak for "be more assertive, but I think it's cute you let me dominate you. sometimes."

Beaner Wrote:just ask her out dude

Baklava Wrote:It was "Aw, I didn't mean what I said. You should have said something to me but you're too nice about it! Be a bit more confident, kay"

to that effect

Kalovale Wrote:I think you're just self-denying that it's too good to be true. Go for it. xD

Kawasari Mimoto Wrote:Ask her out. Girls loves guys with the balls to ask 'em out. Even if she doesn't go for it, hey, there are millions of girls out there. Move along.

Baklava Wrote:I AM JUST WONDERING IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU "YOU ACT TOO NICE", IN THE CONTEXT I PROVIDED, IS IT MEANT IN A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE WAY.

IS BEING TOO NICE A TERRIBLE THING.
DO PEOPLE (GIRLS IN GENERAL) FIND "NICENESS" A GOOD QUALITY OR AN ANNOYING ONE.

Takebacker Wrote:Meant in a positive way, but her having to say that in itself is a bad thing if you're interested in her. If you aren't then it isn't a bad thing.

Being nice is bad if you want to get a girlfriend. Being nice is good if you want to keep a girlfriend.

Kawasari Mimoto Wrote:Depends on the girl. Watch their tone of voice, their eyes-movements, as well as their lips. Is she smiling? Is she frowning? Is she giving you a blank look? That hints pretty much everything.

Ex (this happened to me, so I can give somewhat of an insight):

"Wow, you got me a bottle of rum. Damn. You're too damn nice!", and then the girl smiles and laughs, then proceeds on giving me a hug. Obviously a complement.

"Don't let people push you around. You're too nice at times." <- Implying that I should stand up for myself.

Differences? Yes.

Baklava Wrote:I'm not really interested in her.
So wait, what you're saying is I should be an pimento to get a girlfriend, then be nice to keep her?

Takebacker Wrote:Not being nice =/= being an pimento. o.o

Baklava Wrote:So wait what do I do? =x

I HAVE NEVER TALKED TO GIRLS THIS WAY, F'UCK OFF ALL YOU CH/W/NIGGERS.