How have you changed since you joined Southperry?

This question is mainly geared toward long time members. Sorry for those who haven't been here long. :<



Well, before I joined Southperry, I was happy all of the time. I loved life, I loved playing video games -- ESPECIALLY JMS (That was when the English community was very lively). However, that year, my parents also divorced... That killed me on the inside. I just grew depressed... Events here on Southperry up until now (most of you reading this will know what I'm talking about) also killed me on the inside. Having to go back to High School for another year (News to anyone? I don't think I've actually told this to anyone here... It's definitely not something I'm proud of.) due to major depression issues, I had to deal with some pretty ruthless teachers. "Mean" doesn't even begin to describe them. The only class I enjoyed was AP Japanese, because the teacher was like a grandmother to me and I just had so much fun learning the language, not to mention out-shining the foreign exchange student FROM Japan. Having those teachers constantly ridicule me and talk trash to me (in the teacher kind of way, where they can't get fired...) brought me down quite a bit. Then, since 2008, I've gone through the entire ordeal of my parent's divorce and MASSIVE change in things -- my family completely fell apart. It's obvious those things happen eventually, but the way it happened, it came out of nowhere. No one was expecting it and it hit everyone like a freight train.

From 2008 to now, I've lost all of my friends -- every single one of them. I haven't really gotten out of this depression state yet and I miss the days before joining Southperry, when I was extremely happy with who I was and what I did. It's like listening to people on here speak and subconsciously comparing myself to people made my self esteem and confidence drop like a rock. I was way better off before I joined Southperry than I am now.

As I look back to who I was in 2008 before I joined Southperry, I feel like I'm dead on the inside now.


How have you changed, if at all, Southperrians?


Just a note : Just because my change may be sad, it doesn't mean yours has to be too. It can be happy, it can be inspiring, whatever you feel it has been. Just post how you've changed since you joined Southperry. It doesn't have to be completely related to Southperry. It could be how anything in life has changed you.

Not a bit.
Opinion on Humanity - Still Negative
Opinion on Anime Fans - Still Negative
My Smile - Still Fake

I have very twisted morals and different perspectives on life after joining SP. I think SP had a small part in it, but at the same time, I guess the fact that my social-groups changed also affected me a lot over the years. I still play video games, just as much as ever. I've also made some friends on SP, that I ended up becoming really close with. Not going to name anyone, they already know who they are. I'm referring to ones that knows about my social life.

Is this how Southperry has changed us, or how we have changed in the time since we joined?

I joined about 2 weeks ago.
And I can't say I've changed.

But I joined maple in 6th grade. I'm a junior now. I've changed a LOT. My parents divorce really hit me hard in middle school, even thought it was years later. Parent's got divorced when I was 9.

I remember when the divorce was official.
My stomach sank and I though "So, it really is over...."

Life is hard.
But God has always been there for me.

Is this how Southperry has changed us, or how we have changed in the time since we joined?

The latter.

Is this how Southperry has changed us, or how we have changed in the time since we joined?

Pick your poison.

OT: I've grown less and grown more in many areas. Some there has been no change, however.

The only thing that Southperry has changed about me is that I'm more inclined to hold my tongue while posting because I don't want to get banned. All of my social absorption happened when I was younger, so I don't get anything like that out of Southperry, for the most part. I guess in some ways I look up to (for lack of a better term) Eos, Fiel, and Swerve but that's less about wanting to model myself after them than it is about having huge respect for them as people and their outlook on things - mostly because they're not idiots.

Since I joined here in 2008, I can honestly say that I've probably become a more mature and less irritating person. I used to do that for attention or whatever I thought -- but now that I realize that you get more out of being a good person than you do out of being a d'ick.

I'm more patient with people who I think have idiotic ideas and I'm more respectful to people who I think are logical and sound of mind.
I'm less hesitant to drop my thoughts in favor of another person's ideas and I'm less stubborn when it comes to debating them.

From 2008 to 2010 I was home-schooled, I didn't really socialize much, and I was probably going through whatever typical teenage angst those people go through. I whined a lot about how I had no friends even though I made no effort to do so. I acted like I was miserable, even though it might not have been that bad.

Now it's 2011, I'm 18, in college. I'm studying the things that I've always wanted to study, I have a great group of friends online and in real life, there's a significant female in my life (though I have yet to make a step forward about that) and I think I'm on the right track now.

(disclaimer: southperry had nothing to do with this change)

I'm not as shy as I used to be, I got on-track in real life with both school and work, and I have more/better friends than I did before.

I can't really think of anything more specific, because I don't imagine myself being significantly different compared to 2008.

I joined Southperry in 2008. None of the changes that happened to me, though, have happened because of Southperry.

Nevertheless, I can definitely say that I've changed. A lot. I used to be a huge jackass because of outside issues that have nothing at all to do with the people I targeted my flames at. I'm not going to go ahead and say that all that's fixed now - I still have issues with BS - but I'm working at them. From what I've heard of myself, it's definitely less.. evident.

That, and whenever I apologize for being a jerk my friends always call me the big teddybear of the group. It's kind of unnerving, actually.

Speaking of friends, I'm a severe introvert. Well, not SEVERE, but an introvert nonetheless. And since I joined Southperry I've met some of the most amazing people in my life. The circle of friends that I have now is just the best group of people that I have ever encountered in my life. We've gone through thick and thin together, and I sincerely believe we can stay that way. I've come to trust some of them like brothers and sisters, and moreso than my parents or other people I've been "close" with. I've told one particular friend that he's the kind of person I hope to model myself after, because the friendship is just... there.

As far as maturity goes, I believe I've attained some. Like I said, I'm not much of an ass now, and I'd go so far as to say that I'm a bit more mature for my age. But that's that.

Spidey made me a weeaboo.

>Spidey posted Boukoku Kakusei Catharsis by ALI PROJECT
>I enjoyed it, I went on to looked for more songs by them
>Found out they did OP for both Rozen Maiden
>watched Rozen Maiden
>Enjoyed it.
>Liked the lolita character designs. Started drawing /picked up drawing again
>Enjoyed the drama. Checked out other animu
>Eventually watched Angel Beats. Inspired to learn piano
>Got into animu fanart.
>Saw a lot of Touhou in fanart
>Researched Touhoo
>Asked Spidey to recommend Toehoe
>Spidey recommends Perfect Cherry Blossom (LOL)
>Moved on to play SWR/hisoutensoku
>Liked the Touhou music. Got into doujin ongaku.

Somewhere in that chain of events, I made friends with Khoi, Rob, Smooth Criminal and EarthAdept2, in that order.

Present day: I'm exploring my artistic style by drawings of lolies, playing piano, listen to doujin, watch animu and playing hisoutensoku. It's been a crazy year.

I've become more subdued since I first joined, even though I still get riled up by obnoxious opinions. I tend to procrastinate more despite having a larger work load. My view point of life is slightly more dismal with the current job market, declining health, and increased work load. Even though life is good, I still remain depressed about the inherent value of my own education and its practical value in getting a job.

Spidey made me a weeaboo.

>Spidey posted Boukoku Kakusei Catharsis by ALI PROJECT
>I enjoyed it, I went on to looked for more songs by them
>Found out they did OP for both Rozen Maiden
>watched Rozen Maiden
>Enjoyed it.
>Liked the lolita character designs. Started drawing /picked up drawing again
>Enjoyed the drama. Checked out other animu
>Eventually watched Angel Beats. Inspired to learn piano
>Got into animu fanart.
>Saw a lot of Touhou in fanart
>Researched Touhoo
>Asked Spidey to recommend Toehoe
>Spidey recommends Perfect Cherry Blossom (LOL)
>Moved on to play SWR/hisoutensoku
>Liked the Touhou music. Got into doujin ongaku.

Somewhere in that chain of events, I made friends with Khoi, Rob, Smooth Criminal and EarthAdept2, in that order.

Present day: I'm exploring my artistic style by drawings of lolies, playing piano, listen to doujin, watch animu and playing hisoutensoku. It's been a crazy year.

I laughed more than I should have. Well, no, I guess your post was pretty accurate. You knew me before the start of SP, though we were only acquaintances at the time. Somehow, Spidey really did help in getting mostly everyone into Touhou. . . Then there's the Hamachi group some of us are in, haha. Ohh yeah. Playing Hisoutensoku a lot too, all thanks to Spidey.

I went from a selfish, contentious idiot to a more agreeable person. Back then I was really one of those people who only ever talk to people they know and treat everyone else like trash. I picked out arguments where there were none and usually came off as a pretentious jackass. Everything used to revolve around me.

Nowadays I've changed a lot. I tend to only lash out at people who are actually in the wrong, I'm a lot more inclusive, and I have a lot more self-worth than I did before. I'm turning 20 this year as opposed to the 16/17 I was when I joined SP; I think the main things that changed me were moving out for college and talking to Providence a lot. I miss that guy.

I've become less socially awkward. Discovered more of my personal style (music, clothes, overall attitude). Other than that whole self-discovery stuff, not much.

Oh wait. Actually, my time management has gotten better. Having to balance my homework, extra-curricular activities, and spending time with friends has forced me to improve. I'm not exactly good yet at managing my time, but it's getting there.

I'm still terrified of Southperrians.

IRL, not much has changed since early 2009. Have become way more social online over time though (not as in spending more time on it, as in talking/posting more), IRL will probably follow eventually since it's all just people in the end right? Same business, different interface. Still somewhat self-absorbed, but less so lately since people don't seem to like it when I talk about nothing but myself all the time which doesn't really help matters at all. Still have a fairly weak grasp of a sense of self/personality and am still fairly insecure though.

A direct or indirect relation to joining Southperry? Definitely on the social side, since it kind of makes me feel my opinion does have merit and value and that other people aren't always right/I'm not always wrong. Has also indirectly made me start up some old habits/hobbies I had let decay again, which honestly makes me feel less 1-dimensional as a person.

I've really grown up with Southperry. I joined when I was about 12/13, and I have learned a lot through the internet. I'm still trying to dig out my social life outside of the internet, though. I shut a lot of the real world out for various reasons, and I lost a lot from that.

Um....I've procrastinated a helluva lot more with Southperry. Goddamm you guys I could be sleeping before 11 PM for once.

I've changed a lot. I was really immature in some areas of my life.

Now I've moved on with a lot of stuff... I'm pretty happy to have gotten into the cycle of normal life. I work, I study, I have a girlfriend, I'm happy.

I really appreciate some people I've met through here. For real. Some have impacted me in my real life, and I like that a lot. It's pretty special for me to feel people on the other side of the screen somewhat care for my real persona. Taking down that barrier is cool.