I don't even enjoy this anymore

I was thinking about this today after I got out of class and met up with a friend outside after class. We've been best friends and all and we decided we'd go out to eat. Though, in the back of my mind I really just wanted to come home and play video games. Thankfully, I had enough willpower to not make up an excuse this time and I spent some time with my friends. And then in the car I started thinking "do I even enjoy the computer anymore?" and I realize that I really don't. It is just a thing that makes time fly for me, getting me through day to day and sort of is an escape from reality. I know in my mind I need to get off this thing, and that deep down I really do just want to stop, but this addiction keeps pulling me back.

This isn't in the angry dome cause I am not really feeling angry about it. It just annoys me that I can see that this does no good in my life and that I really don't even like it, and yet I can't stop.

I was thinking about this today after I got out of class and met up with a friend outside after class. We've been best friends and all and we decided we'd go out to eat. Though, in the back of my mind I really just wanted to come home and play video games. Thankfully, I had enough willpower to not make up an excuse this time and I spent some time with my friends. And then in the car I started thinking "do I even enjoy the computer anymore?" and I realize that I really don't. It is just a thing that makes time fly for me, getting me through day to day and sort of is an escape from reality. I know in my mind I need to get off this thing, and that deep down I really do just want to stop, but this addiction keeps pulling me back.

This isn't in the angry dome cause I am not really feeling angry about it. It just annoys me that I can see that this does no good in my life and that I really don't even like it, and yet I can't stop.

We're on a boat.

Then, stop.

I have a suggestion for you: Everytime someone asks you about doing something, just say yes. Like in that movie. Ok, draw a line when it comes to "Wanna come to a mass suicide?" or the likes, but you get the idea.

The computer should be a distraction, something to enjoy when there's nothing else. If there's something else, there's no point in it.

The computer should be a distraction, something to enjoy when there's nothing else. If there's something else, there's no point in it.

In defense of the NEETs and myself, how do you suggest the priorities should be arranged? Surely, by your suggestion, computer comes last? What about the rest? How do you apply the same mentality for the other activities? Going to a theme park should be chosen over going to the mall because generally it is accepted as more fun? Riding a roller coaster inside that theme park should always be done while just sitting on a bench gazing at passers-by is obviously the other thing you'll have to pick if you don't want to be forced to go home?
Entertainment is entertainment, I don't think someone should be out (yes it often is more healthy) for entertainment when he doesn't exjoy it one bit. The computer shouldn't be a rock bottom buffer for your boredom crisis, it has its place, where it should stay.

Now I understand trying new things and finding new interests kind of an advice. Forcing yourself away from the computer for that period is reasonable; But that it should be the last thing on the list for eternities because of its vile nature isn't a healthy mentality, in my opinion.

Seconding the rest though, if you enjoy it, do it; If you don't, don't. Give yourself more opportunities to find new things you like, and do them.

The computer should be a distraction, something to enjoy when there's nothing else. If there's something else, there's no point in it.

I would rather play a game then party/movies/play sports etc etc, Sure getting out every now and then is all good and healthy, but I'm not wasting my time doing something I dislike rather than enjoy all the damn time.

Obviously, if you don't enjoy it, stop. Especially if you're addicted to it, and enjoy going out more anyways.

In defense of the NEETs and myself, how do you suggest the priorities should be arranged? Surely, by your suggestion, computer comes last? What about the rest? How do you apply the same mentality for the other activities? Going to a theme park should be chosen over going to the mall because generally it is accepted as more fun? Riding a roller coaster inside that theme park should always be done while just sitting on a bench gazing at passers-by is obviously the other thing you'll have to pick if you don't want to be forced to go home?
Entertainment is entertainment, I don't think someone should be out (yes it often is more healthy) for entertainment when he doesn't exjoy it one bit. The computer shouldn't be a rock bottom buffer for your boredom crisis, it has its place, where it should stay.

Now I understand trying new things and finding new interests kind of an advice. Forcing yourself away from the computer for that period is reasonable; But that it should be the last thing on the list for eternities because of its vile nature isn't a healthy mentality, in my opinion.

Seconding the rest though, if you enjoy it, do it; If you don't, don't. Give yourself more opportunities to find new things you like, and do them.

I would rather play a game then party/movies/play sports etc etc, Sure getting out every now and then is all good and healthy, but I'm not wasting my time doing something I dislike rather than enjoy all the damn time.

Obviously, if you don't enjoy it, stop. Especially if you're addicted to it, and enjoy going out more anyways.

If you say you don't enjoy the computer anymore, but after imagining you don't have it you say you do, maybe you have your priorities screwed. Just set yours right. And I assure you, if you start feeling like the computer is not what's going to make you feel better, just avoid it.

Eh, I love hanging out with my friends, going out, partying and etc, but no one would take my gaming hours away. I need games, I need internet. It just grew inside me.

[COLOR="green"]I like going out and having fun all the time. And honestly, ever since I quit Maplestory and don't have to worry about letting down all those people that wanted to go CWK or grind or something, I seem to be less attached overall to my computer.

Spend your life doing what makes you happy.[/COLOR]

Eh, I love hanging out with my friends, going out, partying and etc, but no one would take my gaming hours away. I need games, I need internet. It just grew inside me.

Same.
Really Cancambo, like everyone suggested. When someone asks you to go somewhere, no matter where, just say yes. This will help on controling yourself about video games or something.

I guess a big problem is with a computer addiction is that you just can't stop. The computer is a necessary evil. If I get on here to do something productive it degenerates to something nonproductive and time just flies by so quick and, just like that, another day has been wasted.

Same.
Really Cancambo, like everyone suggested. When someone asks you to go somewhere, no matter where, just say yes. This will help on controling yourself about video games or something.

The computer will always be there when you get back. It sits there, waiting patiently, with all the time in the world. Surely it knows you'll come back some time, and when you do, it'll enjoy every moment it serves you. Yes, it has all the time in the world. Waiting. And you will be back.

Psychology is in general agreement that social interaction between humans is a healthy behavior. I find that I can get the best of both worlds by going over to your friends' places and do LAN parties or something to that effect. And even though you didn't mention this, I have looked back in my own past, and realized that the great wealth of computer knowledge that I have now comes from curiosity when a game glitches or someone h4x0rz it. Or something else goes wrong. Actually, I enjoy finding those bugs and abusing them for a short while, because usually you see something hilarious like "limbo Mario" from Super Mario 64.

Amt of time you spend using the computer for leisure = x
Amt of time you spend using the computer productively = y
x - y = amount of time computer should be stashed somewhere in a drawer.

If you want to turn this into a little activity, I'll limit my activity along with you so you have someone to help you in reducing activity. Btw. How has the car-job thing worked out. Maybe you're just frustrated that you can't do anything due to mobility limitations.

Amt of time you spend using the computer for leisure = x
Amt of time you spend using the computer productively = y
x - y = amount of time computer should be stashed somewhere in a drawer.

If you want to turn this into a little activity, I'll limit my activity along with you so you have someone to help you in reducing activity. Btw. How has the car-job thing worked out. Maybe you're just frustrated that you can't do anything due to mobility limitations.

That's pretty much it. I started playing the computer so much because I couldn't really get many places at the age of 13/14. This led me to sort of ruin my chances of getting these two things later because I never went to school. Now that I can recognize that I want to do something else, I still can't do much because I limited myself earlier. I'm still waiting for the thing in the mail to come that will tell me what fines I owe the state, and then i can figure out how to get my license.

Heres how i use the internet. I use it as a go between for my interactions with everything else in my life. It fills in the gaps that would otherwise leave me sitting and doing nothing. In the end, it may be time i could spend doing something, but I already laid out the idea that if im not going to do anything then why bother? When there is something I want to do, I do it, and then the internet becomes nothing more than that which I have left aside.

Originally used the computer to encourage people & just ignored people I didn't like. It's pretty funny how that turned out after five or so years.

We're on a boat.

The same boat. All of us.

The same boat. All of us.

We all live in a yellow submarine...

I'm really divided inside. On one hand you should hang out with your friends but on the other if you're not enjoying it then why should you? I think as long as you have friends and you have enough self-control to maintain personal relationships, you're fine.