1) Your age?
2) Do you plan on getting married?
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation?
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many?
1) 21
2) Yes, I do plan on getting married. When? Somewhere in my late 20s or early 30s. The reason for that is I want to dedicate at least the first 1/5 of my life to myself. Getting married too early makes my choices in life narrower. This is not in the "having a relationship is just baggage" sense, what I'm trying to elaborate is that I won't have the same opportunities. An example would be working abroad; sure that's possible even if you're in a relationship/married but how much strain would that place on your partner? At least if I'm alone and I'm working abroad, I can fully concentrate on my occupation and not wonder how much money I'll be sending to my significant other, if she's cheating on me, etc.
3) It's essential if I want to understand the person I'm going to share the rest of my life with.
4) Cohabitation is a gauge on how well you can tolerate the other person. I place in tolerate because you can only love a person to a certain degree. On new couples, they don't actually know what love is (heck I don't know it yet). The love they know firsthand is from family but that is a different form in its entirety. What new couples deem of what love is based on their pheromones and chemicals in the body firing wildly. Don't confuse my statement with lust.
5) Love is essential and should be the backbone on unity. Love is only developed when a person fully understands the other and accepts them. It's not some basic format where you have to do this and you accomplish love. A one-way love won't suffice, that only complicates matters (others might view it as a one-way obsession). Mutual respect is also factored into this since you can't love someone if you can't respect them. Try it on a random person.
6) My take on children is that they shouldn't be spontaneous. As much as society and family forces a married couple, sometimes it's not applicable. Don't take this on the physiological approach, if one of them is infertile, there are other ways albeit "unnatural". I don't want to bring an innocent soul in this world when I myself am suffering. I want my next generation to have as good of a life as possible.
As for the number of children, I'd say the most I'll have is two. Their gender doesn't matter.
1) Your age? 17
2) Do you plan on getting married? Sure
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? Sure
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Dunno, depends.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Dunno, depends.
6) Do you plan on having children? Dunno, depends.
1) Your age? 16.
2) Do you plan on getting married? No.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? No.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why. Well, it goes both ways. Depends on the people. Some people get along better, some people don't, some are indifferent.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why. ...I don't get why people say no. I might just be young and stupid, but isn't that the whole point of being married...?
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many? I'd like to, but it most likely won't happen. It'd be nice to have two of them. I dunno, the idea of raising a child appeals to me. It sounds like it's something else to see your child grow up and put all the stuff you've taught him or her to good use in the outside world.
1) Your age?
19
2) Do you plan on getting married?
No.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation?
I would hate living with anyone for a time period of more than a few days. I enjoy my alone time, so no.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why.
The studies indicating otherwise surprised me, but as another person said, correlation does not necessarily equal causation. Having said that, I would think living with someone before marriage would certainly help to avoid divorce. It's like a test drive; people act differently when they get comfortable around other people, and living with someone for a while is a good way of learning their odd quirks before signing any papers.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why.
I really don't think it is. I've met plenty of people who married for odd financial reasons, and they're still together. They're still married; that's what I want to put emphasis on. I don't watch them constantly to see whether or not their marriages are good marriages, but they haven't divorced. That said, a certain amount of respect from both partners would be necessary.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many?
God, no. If anything, I'll consider adoption, but the chances of that are so low that I don't even know why I'm throwing it in here at all.
1) 16.
2) Probably.
3) No.
4) If it's cohabitation after divorce, it'd be for the kids. Cohabitation isn't the same as getting married for me, though. I mean, two men can cohabit.
5) Yes. You don't want to be stuck with the same person you don't even like for your whole life. If you don't love him/her, then what's the point in seeing his/her ugly face (to you, at least) every day when you're so bored of it?
6) Yes. It is my duty to humankind and nature. On a more serious note, I guess so. No particular reason why.
I'd like to state that here in Singapore, most people get married and stay married. Divorces are so uncommon they're quite rare (Not quite the case these days, though... Society is opening up) and cohabitation is almost unheard of. We have a more conservative society, I guess.
1) Your age? 18
2) Do you plan on getting married? no
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? no
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why. Don't know enough to make have a somewhat informative/educated opinion on tis.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why. If I were ever to get married. ( I don't belive in marrige ) It would probably be because the woman I love ( whoever that may be at the time ) ( and if I wanted to stay with her forever ( witch you can't know .. you just can't ) belives in marrige and wants to get married.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many? No. I don't plan on having children. I think its irresponcible. the worlds way to overpopulated and in our current culture getting pregnant and having a family is encouraged ( I find having more then 2 kids revolting personaly . and completley irresponcible ) .
Bit of a bump but this topic interests me. That and a coincidence I love pointing out.
1) Your age?
24, just turned on March 22nd
Kawasari Mimoto Wrote:1) Your age? 20, turning 21 March 22nd
Happy Belated =D
2) Do you plan on getting married?
It's been 18 months now with a ring on my finger
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation?
We did. Almost 3 years together before we got married.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why.
In theory it should help to avoid divorces. You get to be in a more intimate environment and can see if you can work together as a real couple. In practice young couple moves in together, get pregnant from close contact, shotgun wedding, divorce later down the line.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why.
For a successful one, yes. That's the whole point of it, bit cliche, but meh.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many?
Yes, 2 if we don't wind up with twins somewhere down the line (lots of twins floating around on her side of the family). Raising someone, teaching them, learning from them, it just sounds like a great experience.
1) Your age?
16.
2) Do you plan on getting married?
yes.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation?
hopefully.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why.
Increases the chances. I think cohabitation is kind of the ultimate test in a relationship it either makes it or breaks it and most of the time it does not work out.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why.
Yea, its the point of the marriage, one loving the other.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many?
Yes, I've always wanted children, protect someone and nurture them. I'd want two o.0 one of my own and one of my partners. Via surrogate.
Quote:Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
I do not plan on having a cohabitation or getting married or having kids.
Procreate and engage with that which I have come to detest? I will keep my solitude.
1) 19
2) I'll probably never get married. Not one girl has ever found me attractive and I doubt one ever will.
3) Again, probably not ever going to happen.
4) That's kind of one of those "tug-of-war" questions that could go either way. At one point, the two would have to put up with eachother's bull shi't for much longer. On another hand, they would learn how to live with eachother better. It really depends on the people.
5) To make it last, yes. However, a lot of times, marriage for family (as in, they accidentally made an offspring) happens and the family stays together for a long period of time. There are other reasons, too, but love isn't necessary for a marriage entirely.
6) Probably not ever going to happen. *points at answer #2*
1) Your age? 16
2) Do you plan on getting married? No
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? Maybe
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? cannotanswer
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Yes, why the pineapple, unless it's your religion, would you get married. Tax benefits? You can only withstand someone for so long.
6) Do you plan on having children? No
1) Your age? 15
2) Do you plan on getting married? no idea yet
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? depends
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why. Help avoid, basically because we know each other whereabouts.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why. No, My grandma was arranged to marry someone she didnt know, but they still lived a happy life.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many? im just 15 but i think having 3 kids would be fine.
1) I am 17 and so is my girlfriend
2) I do plan on getting married, to her. I've talked about it with her and she only says that we're to young now. She also told me she would like to x]
3) Yes!!
4) Cohabitation can help people see how their partner really is, when they are at home in a comfortable place. In some cases, one member of the relationship might do things that really annoy the other member and can lead to a divorce. On the other hand, those same things that annoy one in the previous relationship, might be found cute, or funny in a different one. It really depends on how well the people can behave together, and how well they get along. I think that if the people can accept each others' flaws, living together is much more practical and likely to happen.
5) I do, but at the same time I don't because there are many marriages that are fine without any sense of love but, in my eyes, love, in some form, is needed for a marriage to work. Some form of acceptance of the other person as a person, flawed in some ways but, overall they are tolerable. I really like to think that after living with someone for let's say, 20+ years, even if you don't show intimacy anymore, there is still love existing between you two. There has to be for the two to be able to stay together.
6) I do, I am unsure of how many but, at least 1. I would feel lonely even with my spouse if there was no one else around. I would like 2 or 3 kids because I find that it would be much more fun with a few little kids running around having their fun. =]
1) Your age? 18.
2) Do you plan on getting married? Maybe someday. Marriage has evolved over the years to where if two people aren't married, they don't receive certain benefits from the government. I don't see a reason why a piece of paper should dictate whether I love someone or not. Also, I find it discriminative that two people of the same gender cannot marry in the majority of the United States.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? I would like to. I spent a week with someone before and I'm glad we did because we were very comfortable around one another and I'd gladly live with him knowing he isn't a slob.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why. I think cohabitation helps avoid divorces. I'm not religious; I believe living together before marriage allows you to know your partner better on many levels.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why. For my marriage, yes. I want to be married to someone because I love them, but also for stability, which has a more minor role.
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many? I'm afraid to give birth, to be honest. I'm also afraid of needles and other medical instruments. In fact, thinking about the process of bleeding and intense pain during child birth makes me feel sick. As for adopting a child, I don't know.
1) Your age? 18
2) Do you plan on getting married? Probably, would rather not.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation? Sometimes i think the more you know about people, the more you start disliking them, so no.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why. There are too many variables (people) and a divorce can occur for plenty of reasons.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why. Trust, respect and tolerance for a long one. "Love" dissappears after time (when sex isnt fun anymore and no more hormones released that can give u that feeling)
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many? Yes, i hope so. Natural selection (i dont like that my mom castrated my cat ). Its not the only reason, i think having kids is one of the most beautiful things that can happen. About how many, it depends, right now if i think about it, i dont think i could actually raise more than one, i plan on focusing on my kid/kids a lot but if i do find someone that can support me i would rethink about having only 1 child.
On a more serious note, I guess so. No particular reason why.
). Its not the only reason, i think having kids is one of the most beautiful things that can happen. About how many, it depends, right now if i think about it, i dont think i could actually raise more than one, i plan on focusing on my kid/kids a lot but if i do find someone that can support me i would rethink about having only 1 child.