Relationships [mature discussion please]

Out of curiosity, when it comes to relationships, what do you guys prefer? Open-relationships? Regular? Long-distance? Short-distance? No relationship at all? Or would you rather be a swinger or whatever? Briefly or explain in detail. I'm just curious what this community thinks. I've had some really mature feedbacks/comments when I asked some of my friends what they thought about a regular long-distance relationship, though a real serious one. I had really interesting answers, and not just ones like "Long distance doesn't work" without giving me specific reasons to back-up their statement.

So, go!

I prefer regular relationships. However, I don't mind open relationships, I'm not precisely a jealous guy, so I'm pretty open to meeting other people while having a bone to bite meanwhile.

As regards long distance relationships, I've had really bad experiences with that. Specially when the girl in question was a girl I really loved, and felt awful to wait more than a week just to see her only for 3~4 hours. Pain mang.

I'm kinda curious about how swingers roll, I don't see myself doing that with my girlfriend or my wife.

No relationship.
I'm too selfish of a person to cater to anyone's needs but my own. I don't like spending too much time with other people, and would rather enjoy spending my free time to myself.

Whenever anybody wants to spend time with me, I try to make up some excuse to not leave home or hang out with them or anything. I've been like that even since I was a kid. People would ask if I wanted to go somewhere after school, but I'd make some lie up so I could go home rather than waste time with whatever the hell they planned on doing.

I have a very negative view on relationships, but I'm pretty pessimistic about everything anyway so that's not a surprise.

They're not for me. I even find friendship time consuming and annoying, so I sure as hell wouldn't have a good time in a relationship.

No relationship.
I'm too selfish of a person to cater to anyone's needs but my own. I don't like spending too much time with other people, and would rather enjoy spending my free time to myself.

Whenever anybody wants to spend time with me, I try to make up some excuse to not leave home or hang out with them or anything. I've been like that even since I was a kid. People would ask if I wanted to go somewhere after school, but I'd make some lie up so I could go home rather than waste time with whatever the hell they planned on doing.

I have a very negative view on relationships, but I'm pretty pessimistic about everything anyway so that's not a surprise.

They're not for me. I even find friendship time consuming and annoying, so I sure as hell wouldn't have a good time in a relationship.

Out of everyone I know (irl and online), you have one of the most interesting perception of humanity, ever.

Out of everyone I know (irl and online), you have one of the most interesting perception of humanity, ever.

You've never met an introvert before?

You've never met an introvert before?

Actually, my teacher is an introvert. You have to define your definition of introvert. There are multiple types, then there are the extreme-introverts.

I'd prefer to have a relationship I myself earn on having. That is, I need to have a good reason apart from sex and cuddling to be in a relationship. If the relationship doesn't give me advantages, such as e.g. cheaper food (making dinner for two is in fact cheaper), better will to work with university or job, and that the person is popular. Being with someone not popular would not be good for connections ("hai I'm married with a serial killer who watches porn and have no job"), neither the self-esteem.

Problem with this, is usually two reasons for me. The first one is about decisions: Should one think about relationships that pays off from the beginning, or relationships that pays off after a longer period of time?

That itself isn't a real problem. Usually, trial-and-error works to find out what suits you (me) the best. If a relationship that pays off fast gives little to no advantage after some years, break or fade it (Yes, it's harsh, but it's true.). If a relationship takes too long to startup, you might consider your patience before starting it.

The real problem is to find someone which gives you an advantage. For me, this is hard as hell, as I'm a fast learner which finds patterns and understands logic very very fast. I'm basically unable to learn stuff with others, as I grasp the ideas and theories way faster than others, and learn them by heart just by looking at them. That's one of the things. The second thing, is that I, as Spidey, prefers a lot of time alone. It's probably a part of indirect bullying during kindergarten, being I'm unable to find a school-partner or someone to do homework with, as well as having a completely different school-route home than everybody else. Simply put, I'm used to work alone and being alone, and I enjoy it because noone can disturb me or slow me down.

As of right now though, I have a girlfriend which is more or less like me (and good-looking. Woah.), so for me and her, it's a win-win situation. Gonna move in together during summer, yay!

Actually, my teacher is an introvert. You have to define your definition of introvert. There are multiple types, then there are the extreme-introverts.

I don't know about types and such. But it's obvious Miss Spidey is an introvert. Or at least a misanthrope even though there isn't much difference between the two.

I don't believe

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relationships shouldn't be labeled and defined. The attempt creates artificial boundaries and constraints just for the sake of making them.

I refuse to accept there is anything even close to "just one person for each person out there", because that implies love is a tiny controlled thing, rather than a spontaneous and ever-evolving one.

It's also highly improbable that everyone you're capable of being in love with, or loving, will come into your life in a neat and orderly fashion one after the other. Feelings for one person do not preclude feelings for another, and the concept of "choose one of us" is just bizarre to me.

As long as my partner is open with me about what they're up to and how safe they're being I don't have any reason to care if he's fooling around with me or the entire third marine division as long as he's keeping up his end of the relationship, whatever that may be.

If I move in with a partner, and that's a big if because I don't consider it a natural or necessary step in the progress of the relationship, it's a commitment to pool our resources to mutual benefit not some symbol of our love that magically proves to the world we're something specific.

I either need a lot of "me" time, or partners who are independent enough not to mind doing their own thing most of the time and scheduling together time.

I loathe relationships. After 14 (shutup) of them since 7th grade and being cheated on like every time I kinda got over them.

I would rather imagine me dating a 2D female that is perfect for me. It's easier, kinda scary, and weird. I'd rather stay inside, play video games and watch anime all day instead of wasting my money on a girl so she can dump me months later. The most immature people attend my high school and live in this city. Bunch of spooks and cholas.

So I stopped wasting my time, and I've seen an increase in my grades so I guess I'm doing something right.

A good relationship is one that lasts and has meaning.

A relationship where I have someone that I could really trust should I fall into hard times or get really sick. Someone that could pull me out of the darkness