Is it okay to hug a friend who is dating somebody else?

It'd depend mostly who it was.. most people would be okay, only if it was someone who was known to be a man-whore would I probably say not be okay..

Yes.

If the guy gets jealous then he is an idiot

People who are insecure or lacking self-confidence or being in relationships that lack bonding isn't the same as being idiots. I voted no but that's because I always plantain around and vote for the minority on polls. Else, I think it hugs are fine for reasons people have already mentioned in this thread. But since I voted no, I'll speak for the defense of no.

There are plenty of people who are not confident in themselves to believe in their own relationship. This in turn leads them to think a simple hug, kiss on the cheek, phone calls, jokes, etc between their significant other and another person would tear the relationship apart. Worse part of the situation is they usually keep the envious feelings to themselves (going back to lacking self confidence to speak to their lover about it). The more the hid it, the less trust exists in the relationship, and the weaker the bond with the relationship becomes. There are a few people on the forums who lack self confidence in these situations: Harrison and that kid from a few days ago with the life-long chick friend who dated another guy who's thread no longer exist. They're not living on "middle age customs" or are "idiots".

Lets say, John and Jen are dating, john gets shot, is in a coma so her best friend who happens to be a male named Vince comes in and hugs her because she is sad. That does not constitute hello goodbye, it's not appropriate.

But it is. (I know where you were going, I'm not contradicting you).
Obviously the girl needs consolidation, which allows a comfort/sympathy hug.

It depends on the intent. In most cases, it's perfectly fine. (Unless the hugger is trying to get into the other person's pants.)

But it is. (I know where you were going, I'm not contradicting you).
Obviously the girl need consolidation, which allows a comfort/sympathy hug.

It depends on the intent. In most cases, it's perfectly fine. (Unless the hugger is trying to get into the other person's pants.)

Exactly if the huggers both have significant others and are not attracted to the hugger i don't see anything wrong.

Hugs = show love to friends family and other such loved ones. Hell it can even be to a random person, granted they give you permission first. People who are angered/jealous about someone hugging someone else should think about it themselves (and learn to trust their partner's judgement). I know many guys/girls who hug other people that aren't their significant other and it's perfectly fine.

Why the crap would you post this?

I voted no.

For a 15 year old like yourself, hugging is basically sex. Back in the old days, people were killed for huggin' and dancin'.

In most situations it's completely fine. The act of giving a hug is supposed to be one of comfort, not anything sexual. Now if it were, say, a guy who you knew was trying to hook up with your girl then I can see where there might be a problem. But if it's just a friend giving her a hug then I see no reason to be upset over it.

DONT GO TOUCHIN MY GIRL YO.

Naw seriously though, it's not a big deal. Any guy who makes a scene out of it is an idiot.

meant to hit public, sorry. Would <3 if a mod changed it.

and i agree with all but 4 people in this thread. (guess which?)

A vote can't be made public, even by a mod, once it's been opened. The system considers that a privacy violation because it's not what the voters consented to prior to voting.

For the most part, yes, it is okay. I'll explain my reasoning below.

I'm close friends with a lot of girls in my town. Most of them, I'm aware that they have a boyfriend. Of course, the most I would do is a regular hug. The kind of hug that I would never do, is a hug from behind. These are the more romantic-type of hugs that I would never bother attempting to execute. Typical hugs that I personally do are the ones that shows I either care about the other person if they're depressed (but as a friend, nothing more). Or ones that specifies "Oh hey! Long time no see!", "Hi!", "Bye!", etc. I see nothing wrong with hugging, unless you're doing it in front of the person's partner, only to spite them or make them furious. If you're doing that, you're just being a plantain. It's human-nature to be envious or jealous at times when a person closest to you that you have great feelings for is currently being hugged by another person of the same sex as you.

Of course, that's human-nature. Some people can overcome that and shrug at it. Hugs are not meant to be sexual or mean anything else more than just bodily-contact. If you make it sexual, it is sexual. In example, if you're hugging and groping all over the girl's ass, of course. If it's just a quick and light hug, where is the harm? I've also cuddled with girls that had a boyfriend, but it wasn't anything sexual, as I did not touch their breasts, ass, or lower-area. It was basically a prolonged-hug, is how I would define 'cuddling'. I'm no expert, but this is how I view things because it's how I've always done things. I never had trouble with any of the boyfriend(s) that my chick-friends has, mostly because I know all of the guys (lolcircle-of-friends), and people are aware I'm not trying to steal their woman, aside from the typical perverted jokes here and there.