Girls

@Cynic: I dunno if any of my guy friends are like that. I don't wanna know.

Lol, yeah most of this happened two years ago when I was still in HS though, I honestly couldn't wait to get away....Just to be around more people who are like that

It's one of the many things that make me very cynical

Some girls do, truth is, lots of them are superficial. Only when they hit 19+ do they realize that they want a potential partner, and not a hot guy that would dump them after barely half a year or so. A lot of girls around 19-24 that I know are very mature, and they're nothing like the girls in High School. Huge difference! You can tell once you're in college too, some of them girls might be like the ones in HS, but some of them can be very mature about things.

The girl I currently like is 22, I'm 20, 2 years apart, but she's a cool chick to be with. Different guys approaches girls differently, also, it depends on the girl's behavior and personality! I usually say something like "Oh hey, look, ... ____, I think you're an awesome chick. Every time I'm hanging out with you, I have so much fun. Like xyz time and so, but look, to get to the point. I really like you, I think you're very sweet. I'd appreciate it if you'd go on a friendly date with me, ya know. Perhaps the movies. I believe you enjoy comedies, so let's watch a funny movie! You don't have to accept my offer, and hey, this is just a friendly date. If you refuse, it's all good. No feelings are hurt", and end it off with a laugh or smile. That's what I usually do. College has been GREAT for me so far.

I hate guys. Girls are way nicer to me than any guy ever will be. No, I have not been bullied or anything. I just hate guys and I find girls easier to talk to.

I hate guys. Girls are way nicer to me than any guy ever will be. No, I have not been bullied or anything. I just hate guys and I find girls easier to talk to.

I'm with you. I only have 2 real guy friends. I mean, only 2 guy friends period. My friend base slimmed down once I hit college. The 2 I have though, are really good friends. But comparatively I have a shi`tton of girl friends.

@Khoi: There's still a lot of girls in college that are also really immature in their approaches to relationships. They're typically the "super hot" ones, too. \shrug/.

You know what makes me happy, Death? The fact that I've also haven't really had anything either, but my girlfriend loves me nonetheless.

@Cynic: I dunno if any of my guy friends are like that. I don't wanna know.

But I really really want to hug and hold a girl, I mean I could stand being alone but that would be playing games 10+ hours a day to keep my mind off it.

But I really really want to hug and hold a girl, I mean I could stand being alone but that would be playing games 10+ hours a day to keep my mind off it.

I'm not going to comment on the approaches you boys have but this right here... this is really creepy. Stop obsessing.

I'm not going to comment on the approaches you boys have but this right here... this is really creepy. Stop obsessing.

Huh can you explain a bit more?

Huh can you explain a bit more?

It's not natural to obsess over anything, first of all. It seems like you're looking for comfort but you're looking the wrong place, and no woman wants a guy who's that attached (literally). Wanting to be held like that is generally the result of not getting enough affection (or getting too much) through life, but instead of projecting it onto women you would be much better off talking to a professional about it. I would say that as long as you have this "need", any relationship you have is bound to fail because no one wants to be on the other end of that. Also it could manifest into something far more dangerous if left unchecked.

If you're asking if they ever stop being two-faced, back-stabbing whores, then no. They don't. In fact, it usually gets worse.

Hahahahaa, I can relate to this. From Junior to Senior year of high school, I dated a girl who was in college. I really was in love with her, and I thought she was in love with me. Long story that no one gives a shi)t about, I found out that not only was she cheating on me, but she was cheating on the guy she was cheating with. I laughed at myself for being a dumbass and not noticing sooner, then promptly told her off, and her other boyfriends. I thought high school girls were bad at my school, but she easily took and ate the damn cake.

Haven't been a relationship since. I haven't looked at a girl and be like "Hmm, I want to go out with her." Now, it's more like "Hmm, we have a little common ground. Maybe we can be friends." I find forming friendships are more important that getting into a relationship.

But I really really want to hug and hold a girl, I mean I could stand being alone but that would be playing games 10+ hours a day to keep my mind off it.

You can touch Sarah's elbow if you treat her to dinner.

It's not natural to obsess over anything, first of all. It seems like you're looking for comfort but you're looking the wrong place, and no woman wants a guy who's that attached (literally). Wanting to be held like that is generally the result of not getting enough affection (or getting too much) through life, but instead of projecting it onto women you would be much better off talking to a professional about it. I would say that as long as you have this "need", any relationship you have is bound to fail because no one wants to be on the other end of that. Also it could manifest into something far more dangerous if left unchecked.

How should I act I just want to be neer a girl and don't girls like to snuggle? o.O
And what could it manifest into?

You can touch Sarah's elbow if you treat her to dinner.

I'll remember that

But I really really want to hug and hold a girl, I mean I could stand being alone but that would be playing games 10+ hours a day to keep my mind off it.

What if that girl knew how much you wanted someone to hug and hold? She might end up exploiting/abusing your feelings

And I agree with BombsAway, just because you get a girlfriend doesn't exactly mean you will be content with things (life).

How should I act I just want to be neer a girl and don't girls like to snuggle? o.O
And what could it manifest into?

RAPE! or stalking....I knew a stalker, and they can be really creepy

Just go to the busiest city you know and hold up a sign that says "Free Hugs". Then go target the ladies.

If you live in San Fransisco, hugs cost $5. Blowjobs are $20.

What if that girl knew how much you wanted someone to hug and hold? She might end up exploiting/abusing your feelings

And I agree with BombsAway, just because you get a girlfriend doesn't exactly mean you will be content with things (life).



RAPE! or stalking....I knew a stalker, and they can be really creepy

What do you mean by abuse my feelings? And yes I don't need a gf but then I'd be on the computer 24/7 and wouldn't advance socialy.

Just go to the busiest city you know and hold up a sign that says "Free Hugs". Then go target the ladies.

If you live in San Fransisco, hugs cost $5. Blowjobs are $20.

I'll try to remember that for when I move out.

You don't need a girlfriend to "advance socially". I've known friends whose social statuses dropped dramatically because they got a girlfriend.

How should I act I just want to be neer a girl and don't girls like to snuggle? o.O
And what could it manifest into?

Act normal? I mean... I can't really coach you on how to act but no one wants to be touched all of the time, nor do they want to feel smothered.

As for it manifesting, it has already started. I mean look, you were considering committing suicide. Maybe that's partly situational but those sorts of feelings don't just come from not having any friends, and this thread backs that up. When we, as people, don't get what we want after a long period of time we will start resenting those who don't provide for us. This is dangerous for both you and those around you. I don't really want to elaborate on that because it doesn't need to be brought up but suffice to say this is something you should deal with in a healthy manner. Find someone who can help you deal with your unnatural obsession. Not someone on the internet. I mean like a therapist.

edit: Oh, Cynic took it to the place I was avoiding. Yes, an obsession like this can cause you to do terrible things.

Don't mind Sarah (BombsAway) she's just screwing with you.

Honestly, though, you shouldn't need to care. The best way to resolve this problem of yours is just to float along and see what happens. If a girl (who matters to you) likes you, you'll know. And then you'll know what to do.

What do you mean by abuse my feelings? And yes I don't need a gf but then I'd be on the computer 24/7 and wouldn't advance socialy.

Well if you do end up overly attached to the girl, you might become one of those people who would "do anything" for them.

What do you mean by advance socially. As in being more sociable to people, or going up in society?

I see a psychiatrist but I don't really talk to them there more for just the anti-depressants and anti-anxiety, and I have a feeling that most girls just hate me which is why I'm considering suicide. And I don't really have any one else to talk to, so I'm using this forum.

Don't mind Sarah (BombsAway) she's just screwing with you.

Honestly, though, you shouldn't need to care. The best way to resolve this problem of yours is just to float along and see what happens.

Nope, I'm being completely serious.

And nope. Letting unresolved feelings linger is never a good thing.