2012-07-30, 09:22 AM
So an update of the situation since my dad has been back;
He came back on saturday at around 5 o clock. Welcomed him home let him ya know, digest he's home. He was under a lot of the stress because he was part of the chair commitee in Geneva(sp?) which is essentially regulates the entire radio conference.
My mom knew I was going to say something cus I was so fed up with this, so she hit the alcohol to cushon the blow. Unfortunately for her, I'm a little more considerate than to lay that out on him the day he's back. In fact I had previously decided I'd just blow after this whole L/A vacation. Even more unfortunate is that my sister thought my dad was coming home sunday, not saturday, and ended up having them all crash again at our house. My mom warned her and she kicked all of em out by like 1. Dad came home, sister wasn't home, mind you this is like after 2 weeks, didn't even bother saying hi to him. He's spending nearly 4 grand on this goddamn trip for her and her friends are much more important.
Well congratulations to my sister for allowing her asinine behavior to leave me an opening. My mom was really tired cus of the wine and the fact she was stressin that she thought I was going to be like "OH MY GOD MOM IS SUCH A FAILURE SHE LET THIS AND THIS AND THIS HAPPEN". My girlfriend and I stayed up till about 2:30 am before calling it a night, waiting for her to come in. She comes in at 3 am, with 2 guy's, and bangs pots and pans to make something quick to eat. My dad's time is about 6 hours ahead, so 3 am is 9 am to him. He comes down, tells her to go to bed and lock's the front door before heading up. When he came down 3 hour's later he saw the door was unlocked, which means someone was here at 3 am. My sister really tried to play it off to my mom as "dad went out to smoke he forgot to lock it@@", but when my dad confronted her about it, "I locked it thinking it was unlocked, which left it unlocked".
My dad saw the tip of the ice burg with this curfew thing. Unfortunately the toilet down stairs in the basement was leaking, and my sister was strangely curious about that, as in, I'm pretty sure one of her dumb ass friends caused it to leak by leaning on it or something. I know my dad caught the hint of "strangely curious", but he's a rational guy, he won't attack/make claims without evidence. I know someone stayed down in the basment imbetween those hours because I made a trap. I brought all the pillows up last night at 2:30 am, and suddenly they were all down there. My sister was definitely sleeping in her room, also the bed down there was made cus my gf/mom recently cleaned the "office" side of the basment.
None the less my dad gave her a lecture about her curfew and how he'd reasonably accept her being out from 12-12:30am, although curfew for under 18 is 12 for our area, but 3am is completely off the mark and not acceptable. She played it off as she's sorry but all she does is hang out at another kid's house. Also throwing her friends under the bus saying that they don't let her come home at that time. My dad prompty responded, if they were real friends they'd respect you, and they'll respect a very very lenient rule I try to enforce. After the whole lecture, my sisters entire crew was outside, in 95 degree heat, humidity making it like 110, just...sitting on the porch. They are too afraid of my dad to even walk into the house. My sister forced them in to say hi. My dad was friendly to them, I'm not sure of his opinion of them as of yet, but he was being polite at the very least. Cracking a joke or two whatever.
They all left to go do whatever, where I walk into the kitchen, overhearing the entire conversation, and I simply say "We need to talk about what happened during this trip cus it wasn't fun, but I'll tell you after the L/a trip to not put on further awkwardness." I planted the seed. I gave him a foreshadowing, a worry, and all I have to do is leave the house for 20 minutes, for him to try to get the answers out of my mother. So I left to best buy to get a TB external drive and came back, where he pulled me to the side.
He tried to lecture me on not being a parent, how the whole
I tell him everything that has happened, how 5 guys essentially were here every night, all day, only to be playing instruments at 2 am in the morning. How my sister outright defied my mother multiple times after I did confront her about the situation. How she'd come home at 3 am, her entire group wreaking in pot that even the house caught the fumes for an hour, only to be bing eating everything in the house. How she drank all my alcohol without even consulting me, how she made me hook up the wii only to steal all the accessories I purchased, and play at ungodly hours. How my mom tied my noose by telling my sister I ratted her out, punishing me for being honest with my dad, how on some day's they stole my parking spot, how they constantly begged for cash, my sister literally telling my mother "I already spent one paycheck for my vacation! YOU need to pay for my stuff now" (roughly $100), compltely wrecked my bathroom, used nearly everything in it, and how even though I did tell my mom about the food thing, that she clearly wasn't getting the point.
My dad called my sister up not even 2 minutes later, telling her how she needs to get home by curfew and if she brings anyone home he's calling the police on both of them. He's gonna have a long talk with her today, I'm sure. I'll keep you updated cus this is some well deserving redemption that I've been starving for.
He came back on saturday at around 5 o clock. Welcomed him home let him ya know, digest he's home. He was under a lot of the stress because he was part of the chair commitee in Geneva(sp?) which is essentially regulates the entire radio conference.
what they do to my knowledge
. My mom knew I was going to say something cus I was so fed up with this, so she hit the alcohol to cushon the blow. Unfortunately for her, I'm a little more considerate than to lay that out on him the day he's back. In fact I had previously decided I'd just blow after this whole L/A vacation. Even more unfortunate is that my sister thought my dad was coming home sunday, not saturday, and ended up having them all crash again at our house. My mom warned her and she kicked all of em out by like 1. Dad came home, sister wasn't home, mind you this is like after 2 weeks, didn't even bother saying hi to him. He's spending nearly 4 grand on this goddamn trip for her and her friends are much more important.
Well congratulations to my sister for allowing her asinine behavior to leave me an opening. My mom was really tired cus of the wine and the fact she was stressin that she thought I was going to be like "OH MY GOD MOM IS SUCH A FAILURE SHE LET THIS AND THIS AND THIS HAPPEN". My girlfriend and I stayed up till about 2:30 am before calling it a night, waiting for her to come in. She comes in at 3 am, with 2 guy's, and bangs pots and pans to make something quick to eat. My dad's time is about 6 hours ahead, so 3 am is 9 am to him. He comes down, tells her to go to bed and lock's the front door before heading up. When he came down 3 hour's later he saw the door was unlocked, which means someone was here at 3 am. My sister really tried to play it off to my mom as "dad went out to smoke he forgot to lock it@@", but when my dad confronted her about it, "I locked it thinking it was unlocked, which left it unlocked".
My dad saw the tip of the ice burg with this curfew thing. Unfortunately the toilet down stairs in the basement was leaking, and my sister was strangely curious about that, as in, I'm pretty sure one of her dumb ass friends caused it to leak by leaning on it or something. I know my dad caught the hint of "strangely curious", but he's a rational guy, he won't attack/make claims without evidence. I know someone stayed down in the basment imbetween those hours because I made a trap. I brought all the pillows up last night at 2:30 am, and suddenly they were all down there. My sister was definitely sleeping in her room, also the bed down there was made cus my gf/mom recently cleaned the "office" side of the basment.
None the less my dad gave her a lecture about her curfew and how he'd reasonably accept her being out from 12-12:30am, although curfew for under 18 is 12 for our area, but 3am is completely off the mark and not acceptable. She played it off as she's sorry but all she does is hang out at another kid's house. Also throwing her friends under the bus saying that they don't let her come home at that time. My dad prompty responded, if they were real friends they'd respect you, and they'll respect a very very lenient rule I try to enforce. After the whole lecture, my sisters entire crew was outside, in 95 degree heat, humidity making it like 110, just...sitting on the porch. They are too afraid of my dad to even walk into the house. My sister forced them in to say hi. My dad was friendly to them, I'm not sure of his opinion of them as of yet, but he was being polite at the very least. Cracking a joke or two whatever.
They all left to go do whatever, where I walk into the kitchen, overhearing the entire conversation, and I simply say "We need to talk about what happened during this trip cus it wasn't fun, but I'll tell you after the L/a trip to not put on further awkwardness." I planted the seed. I gave him a foreshadowing, a worry, and all I have to do is leave the house for 20 minutes, for him to try to get the answers out of my mother. So I left to best buy to get a TB external drive and came back, where he pulled me to the side.
He tried to lecture me on not being a parent, how the whole
food inquiry
food thing is petty but he'll take care of it. That I should get off my mom's case and how my sister can be difficult, let them two be the parents. I kind of gawked at him, more pissed off at the fact the only thing my mother could tell him about this whole thing is "Dustin's mad cus (sister) at all his food one night". I pulled up the rocking chair behind me, "Okay, let's talk about this whole thing".I tell him everything that has happened, how 5 guys essentially were here every night, all day, only to be playing instruments at 2 am in the morning. How my sister outright defied my mother multiple times after I did confront her about the situation. How she'd come home at 3 am, her entire group wreaking in pot that even the house caught the fumes for an hour, only to be bing eating everything in the house. How she drank all my alcohol without even consulting me, how she made me hook up the wii only to steal all the accessories I purchased, and play at ungodly hours. How my mom tied my noose by telling my sister I ratted her out, punishing me for being honest with my dad, how on some day's they stole my parking spot, how they constantly begged for cash, my sister literally telling my mother "I already spent one paycheck for my vacation! YOU need to pay for my stuff now" (roughly $100), compltely wrecked my bathroom, used nearly everything in it, and how even though I did tell my mom about the food thing, that she clearly wasn't getting the point.
My dad called my sister up not even 2 minutes later, telling her how she needs to get home by curfew and if she brings anyone home he's calling the police on both of them. He's gonna have a long talk with her today, I'm sure. I'll keep you updated cus this is some well deserving redemption that I've been starving for.