2012-04-23, 11:38 AM
Sarah Wrote:It should be about just enjoying them consistently. The sort of feelings I commented on are relationship killers, because a person isn't thinking about the relationship as a long-term commitment but rather a "what can I get out of this now" situation. That's how a lot of people treat relationships, though, so it's not as if you're abnormal. But it's not healthy; you end up putting your psychological wants and needs on the other person and vice versa, which always pushes people away.
SO MUCH THIS.
Though death i'd take this post as a grain of salt in terms of advice, not because it isn't legitimate advice but there's a lot of assumptions she's making. I understand where Sarah is coming from though, my first "online/long distance" destroyed me, and shes warning you that the exaggerations you are using are alarming. Although I think it's personally just the adraneline you feel of getting to see her again.