2012-04-22, 07:51 PM
Rick Wrote:If she's 18 she is not a little girl anymore and can visit you whether her parents want her to or not.
True but I don't want her to get in trouble. It's not worth the risk. And only makes* things more complicated later on.
Abbeh Wrote:I was 22 and my parents still wouldn't let me go to a college I couldn't commute to. It took a lot of arguments to get them to realize they were being retarded.
I'm lucky that my mom knows I wouldn't do things without being completely sure and thinking it through. They had no doubt it me leaving alone to America
and having to sleep on the ground for 18 hours at an airport.
BlueRuin Wrote:Just calm down. If you can't see her this time, there will be other times. If you both feel the same way then be patient, it'll all work out for the best.
That's true. We are patient but it would just be a huge dissapointment...
Justin Wrote:And on the flipside, she's 18, her parents can legally disown her and throw her on the streets should she decide to disobey. I don't know about you guys, but I wouldn't risk free housing and all of the perks having decent parents bring to you over a girl/guy. >_> Especially if things somehow go sour between the two of them and oh look! She doesn't have a home to go back to. It's just asking for trouble if you try to push too hard for this.
Best thing you can do is try to convince her parents you're not out to steal her away from them for the rest of their lives and accept the answer whether it's the one you want or not.
Exactly my thought and also what I did. Don't worry neither of us will go against them if it turns out she can't. We might be desperate for seeing
eachother but we're not blinded by love either.
Rick Wrote:Why were there arguments. If you are 22 and you want to do something, they can not stop you.
You'd think so wouldn't you. Parents can be a huge pain in the ass sometimes.
MrTouchnGo Wrote:They can if they're paying for it.
But in this case I am. I work hard every single day for my money. (Note that this is not my savings account for a car/house etc. It's my own.
Panacea Wrote:Honestly, he's right. You can plea your case but there's ultimately a line that, should you cross it, may cause more harm than good.
Not negative, just realistic.
Like mentioned above, don't worry we wont do stupid things like going against it and just let her come here anyway.
It will only make things a lot more complicated in the future completely losing their trust in me and her.