2012-03-26, 07:06 PM
What you did wasn't the most noble course of action by divulging private information, however she asked for it when she got careless and had others intervene on her behalf. Also why would you want someone you still consider to be a friend to be left with someone who you claim is as questionable and two faced as her?
She made a mistake and got caught tripped up having two people she bad mouthed to become aware of their plight. By all rights she opened herself to be exposed and you acted in the most sensible manner which was to divulge information with the party that was contacting you.
If she was going to harass you, then she should have done it herself. The fact that she decided to use a proxy backfired on her. At the point when you decided to share information, you came down to the dilemma of choosing to tell your story or a tailored story.
If you did choose to be cordial, then you risked being a borderline cherry picker and withholding information from the other party. You predicted that by being honest, she would cut off communication with you. However you couldn't predict that she would also cut off talk with your friend in the process. Your intent wasn't to hurt anyone, but to just act in your own self interest by cutting off the relationship and stopping subsequent conflict. Whether your means to that end was the best maneuver can be debated ad infinitum in retrospect. However you shouldn't feel bad since your intent wasn't gravitated towards maliciousness, but more towards self-liberation.
She made a mistake and got caught tripped up having two people she bad mouthed to become aware of their plight. By all rights she opened herself to be exposed and you acted in the most sensible manner which was to divulge information with the party that was contacting you.
If she was going to harass you, then she should have done it herself. The fact that she decided to use a proxy backfired on her. At the point when you decided to share information, you came down to the dilemma of choosing to tell your story or a tailored story.
If you did choose to be cordial, then you risked being a borderline cherry picker and withholding information from the other party. You predicted that by being honest, she would cut off communication with you. However you couldn't predict that she would also cut off talk with your friend in the process. Your intent wasn't to hurt anyone, but to just act in your own self interest by cutting off the relationship and stopping subsequent conflict. Whether your means to that end was the best maneuver can be debated ad infinitum in retrospect. However you shouldn't feel bad since your intent wasn't gravitated towards maliciousness, but more towards self-liberation.