2012-01-07, 02:39 AM
But that's part of the point (original blog post linked), Ray. Most everyone is missing a link, and if it takes all three to be happy, then logically without even one you'd be unhappy.
And I can definitely relate. When my ex-boyfriend broke up with me at the end of October, I was devastated. I had lost a link, one I had so deeply, emotionally cherished, and with that loss came the psychological downspiral. Unfortunately my grades, the "professional" determinant of any student's life, per se, had already been sliding up to that point, and so with this upsetting turn of events they, too, were lost in the coming weeks. One link fell because of another, and all I had left were my friends, who are, thankfully, plentiful and amazing. But while I can't complain there, I don't personally feel like I have the facet of "good friendships" fully covered because I don't have anyone in my life I'd consider a "best" friend, a person I share a deep, emotional connection with. There's only one person who's close, but she's most likely leaving the area in less than six months.
Long story short, I had some semblance of 2+ links going before it all shattered, and so yeah, the last two months sucked. But it's 2012 now and I'm rebuilding and reshaping my life, and slowly but surely the outlines of the links are coming in to view. What's hardest about achieving the trifecta in life, I feel, is the time needed for it all, because in our overly interconnected society our senses are constantly bombarded with signs of people enjoying that which we don't have, further fueling our sadness/jealousy/depression/anger/ambition/passions/etc. Some of those emotions are detrimental, while others are beneficial, and while we're all human and don't always follow those emotions that may better our lives, it's important to recognize their existence whenever possible as fuel to both get past whatever was dragging us down and to move forward to that which we're destined to achieve.
And I can definitely relate. When my ex-boyfriend broke up with me at the end of October, I was devastated. I had lost a link, one I had so deeply, emotionally cherished, and with that loss came the psychological downspiral. Unfortunately my grades, the "professional" determinant of any student's life, per se, had already been sliding up to that point, and so with this upsetting turn of events they, too, were lost in the coming weeks. One link fell because of another, and all I had left were my friends, who are, thankfully, plentiful and amazing. But while I can't complain there, I don't personally feel like I have the facet of "good friendships" fully covered because I don't have anyone in my life I'd consider a "best" friend, a person I share a deep, emotional connection with. There's only one person who's close, but she's most likely leaving the area in less than six months.
Long story short, I had some semblance of 2+ links going before it all shattered, and so yeah, the last two months sucked. But it's 2012 now and I'm rebuilding and reshaping my life, and slowly but surely the outlines of the links are coming in to view. What's hardest about achieving the trifecta in life, I feel, is the time needed for it all, because in our overly interconnected society our senses are constantly bombarded with signs of people enjoying that which we don't have, further fueling our sadness/jealousy/depression/anger/ambition/passions/etc. Some of those emotions are detrimental, while others are beneficial, and while we're all human and don't always follow those emotions that may better our lives, it's important to recognize their existence whenever possible as fuel to both get past whatever was dragging us down and to move forward to that which we're destined to achieve.