2011-06-26, 03:05 AM
No, I'm not talking about with ourselves or random people. I'm talking about family, boyfriend/husband, girlfriend/wife and friends.
To me, I don't mind much when my mother smokes, but it absolutely KILLS me to see my friends, or anyone else I'm familiar with, smoking. I honestly don't know what it is. Maybe it's because I have a bond with them and never imagined them as a smoker. Maybe it's because I, myself, am not a smoker and I simply don't want to be around it. Maybe it's because I care for them. Maybe there is no reason.
I really don't know how to deal with it. For example: You have a boy/girl you like a lot. You've been dating for a few months now and then you find out that they smoke, not a lot and not often (say, an occassional cigarette puff/hit with a friend at a get together once every semester in school). How would you go about this?
Another example: Your mother, who shows no signs of stress, is smoking one day and it's the first time you've saw her smoke, but it's not her first time. She also doesn't smoke often. She says she can do what she wants but it's a habit she wants to stop eventually. You've monitored her and from what you find, she has definitely tried to limit herself. But she's still doing it. How would you go about this?
To me, I have no clue what I'd do. In terms of someone I'm dating, I HATE smoking, but I don't think I could stop them from a habit that doesn't happen to often. And as much as I hate it, I feel it wouldn't be something to break up over, even if I wanted to. With family, I'm also at a loss. It IS their lives, and that's the only thing that they can control. They want to stop, but how hard is it really to stop?
I've never smoked nor do I want to. I have no idea how hard it is to stop smoking. All I know is that I DESPISE smoking with almost all my heart.
What would you do, SP?
To me, I don't mind much when my mother smokes, but it absolutely KILLS me to see my friends, or anyone else I'm familiar with, smoking. I honestly don't know what it is. Maybe it's because I have a bond with them and never imagined them as a smoker. Maybe it's because I, myself, am not a smoker and I simply don't want to be around it. Maybe it's because I care for them. Maybe there is no reason.
I really don't know how to deal with it. For example: You have a boy/girl you like a lot. You've been dating for a few months now and then you find out that they smoke, not a lot and not often (say, an occassional cigarette puff/hit with a friend at a get together once every semester in school). How would you go about this?
Another example: Your mother, who shows no signs of stress, is smoking one day and it's the first time you've saw her smoke, but it's not her first time. She also doesn't smoke often. She says she can do what she wants but it's a habit she wants to stop eventually. You've monitored her and from what you find, she has definitely tried to limit herself. But she's still doing it. How would you go about this?
To me, I have no clue what I'd do. In terms of someone I'm dating, I HATE smoking, but I don't think I could stop them from a habit that doesn't happen to often. And as much as I hate it, I feel it wouldn't be something to break up over, even if I wanted to. With family, I'm also at a loss. It IS their lives, and that's the only thing that they can control. They want to stop, but how hard is it really to stop?
I've never smoked nor do I want to. I have no idea how hard it is to stop smoking. All I know is that I DESPISE smoking with almost all my heart.
What would you do, SP?