Fate

I think you might be confusing fate with cause and effect. Fate is, by definition, an event that was inevitable or destined to happen. You can't choose different ones because there is only one. All you really said was that things happen because we make choices. That's exactly what cause and effect is.

What, exactly, do you mean by that second paragraph? Just because something is beyond your or my (or humans) control that doesn't mean it was fated to happen.

no, that's not what i meant.
i see fate as a mix of both destiny and cause&effect.

i also think that some things are too coincidetial, and that's why i believe in fate in general.

sorry, i find it hard to explain stuff in english. :X