2011-02-17, 03:27 AM
The problem is you're looking for someone that really doesn't exist. You may not think you're asking for too much, because those are values most people look for, but really it sounds nice and someone may promise you that they can fulfill those roles, but they can't.
One problem with relationships is that they're hard to read. You want to be serious, so you take caution with who you actually get with. If you get with someone, you want to trust them completely, but if you do that you're just asking to get walked over and crushed. Because of this, you have slight distrust, which also just leads to an end because your doubt will bring about arguments that will eventually lead to the (sometimes slow and torturous) end of the relationship.
You can't trust your partner, and you can't distrust them. It's because they're another human with a will of their own, and while that certainly isn't a bad thing, it makes for a rough road. When you start arguing over insignificant stuff that you'd normally not care for in the past (and wouldn't care about if any other person did the same thing), you already know you're caught in the trap that usually just snowballs until you can't stand each other.
As in, when you're at the age where the partners your in your age group will just settle for what they can get and stay because their chances of finding better are lowered by that point. By then it'll be just the same as finding a partner years before, but they'll just be less inclined to leave the relationship. By then they'll learn to just accept it, even if they don't like it.
In other words, it'll pretty much just be a mask anyway, in most cases.
What a slut.
One problem with relationships is that they're hard to read. You want to be serious, so you take caution with who you actually get with. If you get with someone, you want to trust them completely, but if you do that you're just asking to get walked over and crushed. Because of this, you have slight distrust, which also just leads to an end because your doubt will bring about arguments that will eventually lead to the (sometimes slow and torturous) end of the relationship.
You can't trust your partner, and you can't distrust them. It's because they're another human with a will of their own, and while that certainly isn't a bad thing, it makes for a rough road. When you start arguing over insignificant stuff that you'd normally not care for in the past (and wouldn't care about if any other person did the same thing), you already know you're caught in the trap that usually just snowballs until you can't stand each other.
Zelkova Wrote:If youre patient, and wait long enough, someone with all of those aspects (Minus the puppy part) will enter your life.
As in, when you're at the age where the partners your in your age group will just settle for what they can get and stay because their chances of finding better are lowered by that point. By then it'll be just the same as finding a partner years before, but they'll just be less inclined to leave the relationship. By then they'll learn to just accept it, even if they don't like it.
In other words, it'll pretty much just be a mask anyway, in most cases.
-Ghost- Wrote:Speaking of negative.
Friends with benefits is great if you're a college frat loser.
What a slut.