Who would you save?

Thats an inevitable end i agree. But i rather see my wife happy (If i really truly loved her of course) away from me, than visiting a grave every so often.

But you as a woman, how much would you be more devastated by the truth right after the cirugy? or months or years after the surgery?.

I would have lost my child and my husband. How is that good for anyone?
As I said, my husband would know me and my wishes. Why would he go against my wishes in the first place?
I still couldn't live with the fact that he chose me and not our baby whether it's right after or years later. Many marriages don't survive the death of a child.
Anyway, that's just me. I think it's selfish.