2010-12-04, 02:49 AM
Kunagisa Wrote:My parents talked to me about sex when I was about 5, and made sure to tell me I should aim for the balls if someone tries anything fishy, if there's nobody around to hear a high pitched scream. They also kinda wanted me to understand any lewd jokes they make during movies and such, because they remembered how much it annoyed them when they were younger and nobody explained to them why something like that made the whole room chuckle.
Kunagisa Wrote:As some insight to their unique parenting approach, I'd like to point out that both of them are very chilled out people, and they had me in their early teens. We're practically from the same generation, so they understand me easier than most parents. They felt that strict rules would just encourage me to break them, but also felt they should teach me guidelines. They wouldn't go to extreme measures unless I seemed like I wasn't getting the picture, but since that never happened, they never had to resort to it.
Overall, my parents never really tried to trick me much or anything, and always seemed to have a relationship with me that's very close to what I could call friendship. Real friendship, that is. The kind of friends that actually do look out for you and guide you, but they're not controlling of you. The ones that genuinely care for you. That's the kind of friendship I'm talking about. I was never a problem child, even though I was given way more freedom than any other kid in my age group.
I realize this kind of parenting has many ways in which it can go wrong, and I'm sure someone like Sarah will pop in and talk about how my parents are horrible for treating me like a friend before treating me like a prize they should shelter and protect from the harsh reality of the world until my time comes to naturally learn it, but honestly I don't think their parenting was bad at all.
So I'll say that my parents are my best friends. That doesn't seem to say much coming from someone that has no friends and doesn't like the idea of making many personal ties to people in real life, but I truly believe I wouldn't find anyone no matter how hard I searched that I can give the title of "real friend" to other than my parents.
You just described my parents to a T, it's kind of creepy. While I am sure there are a few things my parents do that yours don't and vice versa, beyond that they are rather close to each other in terms of parenting.
There has never been a wall between me and my parents, we share a lot of the same interests and likes, so we've always gotten along. Never tricked me into doing anything, never forced me to do anything, and just kind of let me go down my own path. Though my father has "tried" to get me to do something, I say it like that because when he did it wasn't like parents normally do, and he only did it twice in my life. I also know he just suggested it because he wanted me to not have any problems in life. Seeing that I can do just fine however I know that in the end he'll let me choose what I want to do with that.
The way you talk about them being your friends also fits. I love to visit them as much as possible because as I said before we share a lot of interests and likes so it's just like being around friends I've known since I was a kid (lolololol) and I am more likely trust them over other friends since I know they wouldn't do some of the things friends have done to their friends over the years of history.
Get out of my head and give me back my parents.
Feels good to have awesome parents.