Yes, girls are indeed evil -- take it from this girl, who went from ugly duckling to decent looking.
Through the years of growing up, young little girls at the grades of 1-4 generally make friendships based on trust. It's a "I tell u secret and u keep it forever or else its over" kinda deal.
At grade 5-7, these girls' hormones start to kick in. Their bodies start to mature and suddenly, beauty matters. As long as you're ugly duckling, it's a lose lose deal. They don't give a crap if you can keep secrets. They're quite admirant (is there such a word?) of older girls -- role models, you could say. These are the important years of a girl's life that can change her permenantly for the rest of her life imo.
From 7-9, oh-my-freaking-god. Girls start to become vicious like you have no freaking clue. I can honestly say that at a certain point in those grades, I've gotten myself in a whole lot of pumpernickel 'cause I "talked pumpernickel" about some girl and this girl goes to her friends who go to their friends and .. yeah. lol Seriously, all I did was find a [male] classmate crying in an empty hall and told him that he was probably best finding another girl who DOES love him. And just like that, this chain-reaction happened 'cause I went and tried to comfort the poor guy. lol Teenage girls. FYI - I think girls are far more vicious than guys. Guys will beat the crap out of each other if pissed. Girls will find all ways possible to take each other down.
By grade 10, things start to clear up. Hormonal make-over's are almost completed. Girls are a bit more mature and a whole lot of that "He Said She Said"'s start to lessen but not completely non-existant. By now, girls are, for the most part, black and white. You're either a "Mean Girl" or you're the "Nice Girl". -- this is categorizing them in an extreme way.
From 11-12, a whole lot more maturity kicks in and the ladies start to understand social relationships a bit better. Social tolerance leads to giving them the ability to better get along with their peers. Not saying girls aren't vicious, though. I'm saying that they're more tolerant and more adept at covering up rude/inconsiderate/mean thoughts. But of course, let's not forget about mean girls.
By college, imo, if any girl still haven't matured up, then seriously, I wouldn't bother with these girls. It's probably not worth anyone's time trying to get along with them.
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Question to the danglers (on behalf of a rl friend in need
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IS there ever a way to reject a nice guy without hurting them? I find myself in the situation where it goes too far and pushes my guilt limit to the point where I end up just blurting it all out. -- Which, by then, it's me getting avalanched from there. >.> I know telling him no, straight up, is probably best, but I rather reject him in a way that it'll encourage him to find somebody else instead of making him end up mulling in depression that "all nice guys get rejected".
What is on your mind when you like a girl who is not "mean" enough to call it quits with you when you push her into a relationship? What happens when you find that another guy also likes her but she doesn't like either of you?
Through the years of growing up, young little girls at the grades of 1-4 generally make friendships based on trust. It's a "I tell u secret and u keep it forever or else its over" kinda deal.
At grade 5-7, these girls' hormones start to kick in. Their bodies start to mature and suddenly, beauty matters. As long as you're ugly duckling, it's a lose lose deal. They don't give a crap if you can keep secrets. They're quite admirant (is there such a word?) of older girls -- role models, you could say. These are the important years of a girl's life that can change her permenantly for the rest of her life imo.
From 7-9, oh-my-freaking-god. Girls start to become vicious like you have no freaking clue. I can honestly say that at a certain point in those grades, I've gotten myself in a whole lot of pumpernickel 'cause I "talked pumpernickel" about some girl and this girl goes to her friends who go to their friends and .. yeah. lol Seriously, all I did was find a [male] classmate crying in an empty hall and told him that he was probably best finding another girl who DOES love him. And just like that, this chain-reaction happened 'cause I went and tried to comfort the poor guy. lol Teenage girls. FYI - I think girls are far more vicious than guys. Guys will beat the crap out of each other if pissed. Girls will find all ways possible to take each other down.
By grade 10, things start to clear up. Hormonal make-over's are almost completed. Girls are a bit more mature and a whole lot of that "He Said She Said"'s start to lessen but not completely non-existant. By now, girls are, for the most part, black and white. You're either a "Mean Girl" or you're the "Nice Girl". -- this is categorizing them in an extreme way.
From 11-12, a whole lot more maturity kicks in and the ladies start to understand social relationships a bit better. Social tolerance leads to giving them the ability to better get along with their peers. Not saying girls aren't vicious, though. I'm saying that they're more tolerant and more adept at covering up rude/inconsiderate/mean thoughts. But of course, let's not forget about mean girls.
By college, imo, if any girl still haven't matured up, then seriously, I wouldn't bother with these girls. It's probably not worth anyone's time trying to get along with them.
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Question to the danglers (on behalf of a rl friend in need
):IS there ever a way to reject a nice guy without hurting them? I find myself in the situation where it goes too far and pushes my guilt limit to the point where I end up just blurting it all out. -- Which, by then, it's me getting avalanched from there. >.> I know telling him no, straight up, is probably best, but I rather reject him in a way that it'll encourage him to find somebody else instead of making him end up mulling in depression that "all nice guys get rejected".
What is on your mind when you like a girl who is not "mean" enough to call it quits with you when you push her into a relationship? What happens when you find that another guy also likes her but she doesn't like either of you?