Finding an MMO for two

So , I'm in a long distance relationship and me and her are looking for an MMO we can play together
we both are looking for the same things in a MMO aswell. they are
( most important ) good character customization.
decent gameplay ( Aion/Cabal is as much point and click as we're willing to go )
the main reason we're lookin for a game thats not maple is because we HATE grindin and are epic at procrastinating
also a couple/wedding system would be nice.

we're considering Aion ( but again lotsa grinding/ limited features asides from grinding/pvp)
Phantasy Star Universe : AOTI (customization is decent , gameplay gets repetative pretty fast )
Cabal Online (Very limited customization , graphics are dull )

we can't play the following due to distance restrictions : DFO , Vindictus and any game that requires a proxy to play.

we would play APB but its gone

WoW is out of the question.

so yeah, its pretty frustrating , are there any MMOs you guys can recommend ( pay to play is fine )

p.s I'm in the middle east and she's in South America .