2008-09-05, 02:13 AM
Mmm. In one sense, you move on - that is, after a certain time, most people will finally be functioning at an acceptable level in everyday life (DSM-IV says it's 6 months). In another sense, you never move on. Nothing will ever fill that void, ever, ever, and (as far as I can tell) you will always carry that around with you.
It also doesn't help that things can never be the same again. Some things can't be begun because other things weren't completed. Widows may remarry, often to the anger and continual grief of children. Parents who have lost a child see their child's former friends growing up, graduating, getting married, things their child will now never do. That grief is fresh every single time. Eventually it may become muted; never does it fully disappear.
Hazzy said, "Life moves on." Well, of course it does, for anyone. But not always unchanged. for some, life will never be the same, whether after death, disability, or any of a whole host of painful life events, and it really doesn't change the fact that we should still respect all of those, regardless. I trust Hazzy would agree on that point too.
It also doesn't help that things can never be the same again. Some things can't be begun because other things weren't completed. Widows may remarry, often to the anger and continual grief of children. Parents who have lost a child see their child's former friends growing up, graduating, getting married, things their child will now never do. That grief is fresh every single time. Eventually it may become muted; never does it fully disappear.
Hazzy said, "Life moves on." Well, of course it does, for anyone. But not always unchanged. for some, life will never be the same, whether after death, disability, or any of a whole host of painful life events, and it really doesn't change the fact that we should still respect all of those, regardless. I trust Hazzy would agree on that point too.