2008-09-05, 01:05 AM
Sign Wrote:RobMdza: Yeah, I cried too. Grief breaks you anyway, no matter whether or not the dead are honoured. A very close friend lost their main caregiver when they were 14 years old. You're talking much longer than weeks or months - I'm still seeing it, two years on. It affects personality, family interactions, lifestyle, lots of factors with long-term effects. And some days they will still be breaking down and crying and, sometimes, still asking "Why?". Hazzy is well-intentioned but, respectfully, I don't think he realises what a big deal it is for a loved one to die.
And, yeah, regards funerals. I dunno. For me, the funeral is not the "main part" of the grieving process by any stretch of the imagination. I still don't see any harm in honouring the dead.
Yeah, well, Hazzy is well-intententioned. However, you talk truth when you say that it affects almost everything related to your life. But here's the problem, no matter how, you HAVE to move on. Just to make things easier. Picture it like this (sorry beforehand the stupid comparison): you win a fortune in the lottery, and u get it stolen, you won't regret for life. If not, you're screwed. (I apologize for the bad talking, it's late and I'm exhausted)