2008-09-03, 12:27 PM
Note: This only matters to you high school lovesick puppies. I know that most women aged 18+ aren't this stupid.
How many of you get "friend zoned" by the hot chicks or even moderately hot chicks, and you can't understand why? You are perfect for them. You treat them well, you would pay for their every meal, you would walk them home, shower them with compliments, LOVE THEM until they couldn't be LOVED ANYMORE. It makes sense that they should have feelings for you, too, right? But instead, they're rolling along with that pimento who doesn't care about them, hardly ever pays for anything, spends most of his time making fun of her, and is overall a plantain to both her AND you. Why is this?
Humans are mammals. Mammals are evolutionary (or created for, whoever you believe in) hardwired to be attracted to certain things. How much someone is worth mating with is called their S&R value, or Survival and Replication value. In pack animals, the ALPHA MALE always mates with all of the females. Sometimes a few of the other stronger males who are tight with the alpha get to mate, but it pretty much goes that the higher the status, the more the females want to mate with the males.
Humans really aren't any different. Guys think that girls are looking for the same thing as them - looks. S&R value for guys is strongly based only on the R value and not the S. Females care much more about the S. Women are biologically inclined to be attracted to the ALPHA MALE, or a HIGH STATUS MALE. By buying them flowers and constantly showering them with compliments, you are portraying LOW STATUS, because a high status male isn't used to "chasing" girls.
It sucks that it can't be the way it is in the movies, and we can't buy some flowers and do something thoughtful to woo our women. But the fact is, it's not that way, and trying to tell ourselves that we can get a girl that way only forces ourselves into the friend zone. It's not that women are bitches - they are evolutionarily hardwired into wanting a guy who is higher status than themselves. Even if they like you at first, they will friend zone you once you start portraying lower status. So just keep this in mind, gentlemen.
Short answer? Be an pimento, and good luck.
How many of you get "friend zoned" by the hot chicks or even moderately hot chicks, and you can't understand why? You are perfect for them. You treat them well, you would pay for their every meal, you would walk them home, shower them with compliments, LOVE THEM until they couldn't be LOVED ANYMORE. It makes sense that they should have feelings for you, too, right? But instead, they're rolling along with that pimento who doesn't care about them, hardly ever pays for anything, spends most of his time making fun of her, and is overall a plantain to both her AND you. Why is this?
Humans are mammals. Mammals are evolutionary (or created for, whoever you believe in) hardwired to be attracted to certain things. How much someone is worth mating with is called their S&R value, or Survival and Replication value. In pack animals, the ALPHA MALE always mates with all of the females. Sometimes a few of the other stronger males who are tight with the alpha get to mate, but it pretty much goes that the higher the status, the more the females want to mate with the males.
Humans really aren't any different. Guys think that girls are looking for the same thing as them - looks. S&R value for guys is strongly based only on the R value and not the S. Females care much more about the S. Women are biologically inclined to be attracted to the ALPHA MALE, or a HIGH STATUS MALE. By buying them flowers and constantly showering them with compliments, you are portraying LOW STATUS, because a high status male isn't used to "chasing" girls.
It sucks that it can't be the way it is in the movies, and we can't buy some flowers and do something thoughtful to woo our women. But the fact is, it's not that way, and trying to tell ourselves that we can get a girl that way only forces ourselves into the friend zone. It's not that women are bitches - they are evolutionarily hardwired into wanting a guy who is higher status than themselves. Even if they like you at first, they will friend zone you once you start portraying lower status. So just keep this in mind, gentlemen.
Short answer? Be an pimento, and good luck.