2010-04-15, 01:28 PM
finalbragade Wrote:Ya know, you seem to make the assumption that if something "tragic" where to happen it being known by an outside party will be immediate horror. In all honesty what "bad" thing would come from my parents knowing my friend was raped. She gets comforted more, she has more people she can talk to about it, what exactly?
And I'm not sure if i read that correctly but... did you just ask if a parent should know whether or not their daughter is having sex? If i had a daughter who's boyfriend was talking about sex positions I'd be a little flustered and question it. I'm not just going to go... "oh so you might have underage sex for the first time... make sure to widen your hips!" because it's natural teenage actions.
As to what a parent should do if there's a problem that's more in personal parental control and how you feel about it. What should be done is more your opinion then a fact because if a child has something that's a serious problem like a drug addiction or a pregnancy then it's doubtful the child would be honest and allow a parent to just give them advise because they probably wouldn't provide accurate information.
If your parents know about your friend being raped in this case, then that's bad for several reasons: You have "lied" to your friend, at least she would think so. That would make it rather hard to trust you, and you will possibly not be friends anymore. Second: People feel guilt about being raped, and when more people know in the early phase, you feel even more hurt. Consider it as an amplifier for suicide-thoughts and actions. Third: Not all parents are smart, and may tell this to others, increasing #2. Fourth: Though already stated earlier, it's harder for the person to trust someone if this happens. Generally bad to do with someone with such a big issue.
Not exactly what I'm asking: I'm talking about legal sex.