2010-03-01, 09:01 AM
(This post was last modified: 2010-03-02, 05:57 PM by 2147483647.)
1) Your age?
17
2) Do you plan on getting married?
No. I do not. I disagree and hate marriage system, because honestly, what is a marriage but a piece of paper and a formal announcement? I think I've preached this to no end to many of my acquaintances. Marriage has no weight at all compared to the bond that you form with your companion. It doesn't denote anything any more than a diploma determines the amount of knowledge you have acquired through learning.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation?
Definitely. The most important aspect of any relationship is communication. Often, people don't get enough opportunities throughout the day to communicate with friends and cohabitation fixes this problem. First, it would be quite rewarding to return from a day's work to welcoming arms. Second, it would somewhat force differences to be resolved. Finally, it would allow me the ultimate method to work for her. It is my goal to make my girl the primary motivation for my existence (somewhat distorted from what most people would agree to), so essentially, she would become my religion. Cohabitance gives me a way to support her, to make her comfortable, to make her happy.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why.
Can't be a divorce if there's no marriage to begin with.
It will increase the chance of splitting up, but at the same time, it will increase the chance of staying together. The reason it will increase the chance of splitting up is that whenever there's cohabitation, both people will directly observe negative aspects of the other that they normally would not see in the public. However, the reason it increases the chance of staying together is that without cohabitance, all someone can do is date. Can't keep dating for life. ><
The way I model love is very bizarre to begin with. I have a theory that if you model the mind using Freud's iceburg theory, the human mind has the id and the conscious. As Freud models it, the id is meant to be suppressed and repressed. However, my theory is that this repression is accompanied by a repression of inner motivation, and that's where love comes in. My spouse is meant to become the 'voice in my head', someone I can consult in and trust. Bonding would make she and me one.
That being said, if a disagreement does happen, the problem wouldn't have originated from my end, because I ultimately yield for her. Why should I even conflict myself? Also, even if she caused something to happen, I may as well just end up helping to clean up the mess. But if a split-up really does happen, I would ultimately end up blaming myself and enter severe depression.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why.
It's not for a marriage. People get married nowadays for all the wrong reasons. However, it is indeed necessary for an enduring marriage. If you ever go to the park and see a really old couple walking together, you should ask how they're still together. Most likely, they'll tell you "because we love each other". And it's true, because you don't tire of the ones you love. If you do, then you obviously don't love them or you don't love them enough.
Usually if love isn't present, the cohabitance exists only for financial stability. After the stability's been built, if love still hasn't been established, then there's probably going to be little chance that the two people would stay together. Why would you stay with someone who you've seen all the defects to anyway if you didn't love that person?
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many?
I do, yet I do not. Children can be quite a blessing, yet they could also be quite a burden. I'm fully aware that girls must dedicate 9 months for pregnancy, and it dramatically changes them psychologically. All a guy has to do is the initial implantation of sperm and that's nothing compared to the investment a girl has to go through.
After pregnancy, the child would provide a source for disagreement and be troubling, psychological as well as financial investments, which will ultimately stress the relationship. Thus, I believe this matter isn't in my hands. I will leave it completely for the girl to decide, whether she wants to adopt, have children, or not have children at all. Honestly, I don't really care. I'd be fine with any of the choices and I'd fully support her decision.
17
2) Do you plan on getting married?
No. I do not. I disagree and hate marriage system, because honestly, what is a marriage but a piece of paper and a formal announcement? I think I've preached this to no end to many of my acquaintances. Marriage has no weight at all compared to the bond that you form with your companion. It doesn't denote anything any more than a diploma determines the amount of knowledge you have acquired through learning.
3) Are you going to have any sort of cohabitation?
Definitely. The most important aspect of any relationship is communication. Often, people don't get enough opportunities throughout the day to communicate with friends and cohabitation fixes this problem. First, it would be quite rewarding to return from a day's work to welcoming arms. Second, it would somewhat force differences to be resolved. Finally, it would allow me the ultimate method to work for her. It is my goal to make my girl the primary motivation for my existence (somewhat distorted from what most people would agree to), so essentially, she would become my religion. Cohabitance gives me a way to support her, to make her comfortable, to make her happy.
4) Do you think cohabitation helps to avoid divorces, or increase the chances of divorce? Explain why.
Can't be a divorce if there's no marriage to begin with.
It will increase the chance of splitting up, but at the same time, it will increase the chance of staying together. The reason it will increase the chance of splitting up is that whenever there's cohabitation, both people will directly observe negative aspects of the other that they normally would not see in the public. However, the reason it increases the chance of staying together is that without cohabitance, all someone can do is date. Can't keep dating for life. ><
The way I model love is very bizarre to begin with. I have a theory that if you model the mind using Freud's iceburg theory, the human mind has the id and the conscious. As Freud models it, the id is meant to be suppressed and repressed. However, my theory is that this repression is accompanied by a repression of inner motivation, and that's where love comes in. My spouse is meant to become the 'voice in my head', someone I can consult in and trust. Bonding would make she and me one.
That being said, if a disagreement does happen, the problem wouldn't have originated from my end, because I ultimately yield for her. Why should I even conflict myself? Also, even if she caused something to happen, I may as well just end up helping to clean up the mess. But if a split-up really does happen, I would ultimately end up blaming myself and enter severe depression.
5) Do you think love is essential for marriage? Explain why.
It's not for a marriage. People get married nowadays for all the wrong reasons. However, it is indeed necessary for an enduring marriage. If you ever go to the park and see a really old couple walking together, you should ask how they're still together. Most likely, they'll tell you "because we love each other". And it's true, because you don't tire of the ones you love. If you do, then you obviously don't love them or you don't love them enough.
Usually if love isn't present, the cohabitance exists only for financial stability. After the stability's been built, if love still hasn't been established, then there's probably going to be little chance that the two people would stay together. Why would you stay with someone who you've seen all the defects to anyway if you didn't love that person?
6) Do you plan on having children? If so, why, and how many?
I do, yet I do not. Children can be quite a blessing, yet they could also be quite a burden. I'm fully aware that girls must dedicate 9 months for pregnancy, and it dramatically changes them psychologically. All a guy has to do is the initial implantation of sperm and that's nothing compared to the investment a girl has to go through.
After pregnancy, the child would provide a source for disagreement and be troubling, psychological as well as financial investments, which will ultimately stress the relationship. Thus, I believe this matter isn't in my hands. I will leave it completely for the girl to decide, whether she wants to adopt, have children, or not have children at all. Honestly, I don't really care. I'd be fine with any of the choices and I'd fully support her decision.