Relationships [mature discussion please]

I don't believe

 Spoiler

relationships shouldn't be labeled and defined. The attempt creates artificial boundaries and constraints just for the sake of making them.

I refuse to accept there is anything even close to "just one person for each person out there", because that implies love is a tiny controlled thing, rather than a spontaneous and ever-evolving one.

It's also highly improbable that everyone you're capable of being in love with, or loving, will come into your life in a neat and orderly fashion one after the other. Feelings for one person do not preclude feelings for another, and the concept of "choose one of us" is just bizarre to me.

As long as my partner is open with me about what they're up to and how safe they're being I don't have any reason to care if he's fooling around with me or the entire third marine division as long as he's keeping up his end of the relationship, whatever that may be.

If I move in with a partner, and that's a big if because I don't consider it a natural or necessary step in the progress of the relationship, it's a commitment to pool our resources to mutual benefit not some symbol of our love that magically proves to the world we're something specific.

I either need a lot of "me" time, or partners who are independent enough not to mind doing their own thing most of the time and scheduling together time.