2009-10-10, 04:38 PM
Here's my two cents:
Get to know her a bit better. Give it a bit of time but not too long. If she's already taken, she might mention it at some point in passing. Otherwise, you don't want to give her too much time such that someone ELSE will ask her out.
Then after a little bit of time, just bluntly tell her:
"Hey, you wanna go <event of choice>?"
where <event of choice> can either be any event happening nearby... or preferably:
-New movie she wants to see (hence why you try to get to know her better)
By the way, you probably shouldn't ask her to dinner on your first try. It's a bit too... formal, shall we say? Girls are much more likely to say yes to something fun sounding than something like dinner. If she likes dancing, ask her to a dance. If you guys are past the age of high school dances (I forget how old you are) then just find something else she likes and ask her to do that.
If you can't find anything at all... well that's where your friends come in. Not in the typical "you go find out for me" way. Hopefully you know have a male friend with female friends. You take about 2 -3 people (with at least 1 of them being a girl) and you arrange to go play... uh ... mini golf
You then tell this girl that your friends "invited" you to go play mini golf and you wanted to know if she wanted to come too. Gotta do this as casually as possible. Any hints at nervousness might make her question as to why you're asking her of all people.
If she says she's busy, then don't act let down. Just keep a straight face and shrug it off, enjoy a day of mini golfing with your friends (they don't have to be in on your plan btw) and use this time to come up with another plan.
If she does say yes, then take this time to enjoy yourself Make sure that, if any conversation starts, you keep her a part of it, just slightly. Once again you don't want to force her into the conversation otherwise it might put her off.
If mini golfing doesn't work out, then the mall might work out:
1)You+your friends(at least 1 girl) are gonna go hang out at the mall
2)Ask her if she wants to come check out the mall
3)Hope she's up for it
~ ~ ~ ~
In general, treat her like a normal close friend that you've known for a while (But of course, know your limits). So don't prioritize her (this isn't an actual date yet), but don't leave her alone either.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~
You don't have to use any of this, but hopefully you get some idea of how to approach her.
Also, your sig needs moar judith!
Get to know her a bit better. Give it a bit of time but not too long. If she's already taken, she might mention it at some point in passing. Otherwise, you don't want to give her too much time such that someone ELSE will ask her out.
Then after a little bit of time, just bluntly tell her:
"Hey, you wanna go <event of choice>?"
where <event of choice> can either be any event happening nearby... or preferably:
-New movie she wants to see (hence why you try to get to know her better)
By the way, you probably shouldn't ask her to dinner on your first try. It's a bit too... formal, shall we say? Girls are much more likely to say yes to something fun sounding than something like dinner. If she likes dancing, ask her to a dance. If you guys are past the age of high school dances (I forget how old you are) then just find something else she likes and ask her to do that.
If you can't find anything at all... well that's where your friends come in. Not in the typical "you go find out for me" way. Hopefully you know have a male friend with female friends. You take about 2 -3 people (with at least 1 of them being a girl) and you arrange to go play... uh ... mini golf
You then tell this girl that your friends "invited" you to go play mini golf and you wanted to know if she wanted to come too. Gotta do this as casually as possible. Any hints at nervousness might make her question as to why you're asking her of all people.
If she says she's busy, then don't act let down. Just keep a straight face and shrug it off, enjoy a day of mini golfing with your friends (they don't have to be in on your plan btw) and use this time to come up with another plan.
If she does say yes, then take this time to enjoy yourself
Make sure that, if any conversation starts, you keep her a part of it, just slightly. Once again you don't want to force her into the conversation otherwise it might put her off. If mini golfing doesn't work out, then the mall might work out:
1)You+your friends(at least 1 girl) are gonna go hang out at the mall
2)Ask her if she wants to come check out the mall
3)Hope she's up for it
~ ~ ~ ~
In general, treat her like a normal close friend that you've known for a while (But of course, know your limits). So don't prioritize her (this isn't an actual date yet), but don't leave her alone either.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~
You don't have to use any of this, but hopefully you get some idea of how to approach her.
Also, your sig needs moar judith!