So my fiance is joining the Air Force.

I hope you are right, but I don't know this guy. I know Throws is in it for the long haul, but is it him not wanting to get married or their situation holding them back?

Honestly, if I had to point the finger at one of us as the reason we're not married yet, it would have to be me. If tomorrow I were to call him and say, "let's go to Vegas and get married," he would drop what he was doing, pick me up, and we'd get married.

I wanted us to be "stable" before getting married. I wanted at least one of us to be done with school and have a decent job. We both come from very large families (those islanders, I swear, they have nothing better to do than pop out babies) so if we invite just family, our wedding is already big. We don't have the money for a huge wedding, so we haven't gone through with it yet.

What exactly is he going to be doing in the Air Force? Because a lot of time, people associate military with soldiers and guns and killing some people in some desert when it's just infantry that does that. There are other services to do when joining the military that doesn't even put you in that position. Similarly, for the Air Force.

He hasn't signed anything official yet, but he is looking into a couple different jobs (something having to do with communication, and I can't remember the others off the top of my head.) Thankfully, he is colorblind (though I forget which type of colorblindness he has) so that keeps him away from some trouble.

Has he actually talked with a recruiter, or is he just really considering it seriously?

He's been talking to a recruiter, and did pretty well on the ASVAB. He has to get some medical thing cleared (he happened to be sick the day he was scheduled to do his physical, and was too stubborn to put it off til later) but no, it's not just talk. He's actually going through with it.

But if you question whether you will have a non-pineappleed up family or not, you should really think about the consequences staying with the guy, and the consequences for leaving him.

My fiance is fantastic with children, and would make a wonderful father. I don't question that at all. Hell, he had to help raise his own little brothers and sister due to his dad being an utter moron when he was growing up. What I meant about having a non-fucked up family is that I want to give our children a good childhood because ours weren't all that great.

He came to visit me on a whim tonight. I wasn't supposed to see him until Saturday. Somebody's gonna get laid!