So my fiance is joining the Air Force.

What I meant by that was you need to leave that guy. If you haven't gottem married after that many years, you never will be. You should move on and find another man. Once he goes in the Air Force he will be gone even more than he is now.

I know a couple who were engaged for 10 years. They married, and still live happy this day.

But if you question whether you will have a non-fucked up family or not, you should really think about the consequences staying with the guy, and the consequences for leaving him.