Relationships : Meant to be or suppose to be?

This is a short entry from my blog. I apologize if it's just rambling. I'm not the best writer nor the best person who can get their thoughts out in writing. I'm ponderous on this topic so I'd like to hear what the people on Southperry have to say on it.

A little food for thought there, I guess. In my last entry on this subject, I mentioned that the right friends will just cross paths with you based off a quote I came across: "Friendship isn't supposed to be sought, it'll just happen when you meet the right people."

You will never have to find a BFF, because it's something that isn't found. It's something that's built on, through bonding, through time spent. Whether that may or may not be the case for finding a significant other is ambiguous. For one thing, I've always believed that there's two perspective to everything in life. I guess it's why I'm an engineer eh. If something is found, then the something must've been sought. Not necessarily in the sense that someone was looking for it, in the sense that it was found. Here's an example of what I mean: when an object gets picked up off the ground, there's two point of views happening: there's the hand picking it up. It sees the object. And there's the object that's getting picked up. It sees the hand. Kinda like that. The world is very mechanical and procedural if one would stop and think about it. And I've been stopping to think about it for 21 years.

So in the sense of a friendship, or relationship happening, I believe there's two point of views as well. One is the point of view is that the relationship... happened. That's the hand that's picking up the object that sees the object. Then there's the sense that the relationship was waiting to happen. That's the object that sees the hand. So with that given definition, every relationship is sought. You must've had some interest in the person and the other, likewise for a relationship to be possible between the two. Many argue that a relationship just happens and that it isn't something that is sought or forced. I'd like to believe that relationships just naturally happen as much as anyone else. I've been in a few myself, it does just "happen". But would it happen if I was never looking for one? And to anyone arguing that their relationship was something that just... "happened" :

Would it have happened if you were not looking for it? Would it have happened if you were not interested in looking for it? Would it have happened if you were not interested?