If you throw something away, is it yours?

I think some people who put their child up for adoption but still want to be in the child's life should be allowed to be in his life. After all, it still is their kid. If you had a kid, but couldn't support it, wouldn't you still want to see it ocasionally? BOCTAOE (if you don't get that, read "Stick to drawing comics, Monkey brain!" by Scott Adams)