2008-07-14, 04:08 AM
As you yourself said, Maple Story is your "escape from life" and that's the case for many people I know in the game. There really isnt a point to the game other than that for many people and for many, they're content in it.
First off, I'd say there's nothing wrong with being 240 pounds. Some people are born that way and there's nothing they can do to change it. It's not like you're 240 pounds because you play MS (and dont exercise or whatnot), it seems (from what I gather here) that you're just built differently. There's nothing wrong with it so dont be afraid/lose confidence because of it (Im not saying you are, but I sure get that impression).
Secondly, life is about balance. Maple friends arent "bad" but too much maple (well, too much MS because you're there just to talk with them/spend time with them) isnt necessarily the best thing to do. It might take a while, but you have to find balance in it. For myself, the balance was using MSN/AIM to keep in contact with my friends. 90% of my buddy list/aquaintances from MS have instant messaging of some kind so I keep in contact with them there when Im not on MS. There have been spans when I dont go on ms for weeks, even months (I havent been on ms for 2 weeks now. I've been busy with church matters such as Vacation Bible School, Youth Group, Music Group, etc) and I still keep in contact with my International friends (my term for MS friends). Sure I might not spend time with them as much as if I was on ms, but just having the casual convo here and there, keeping track of how they're doing and whatnot, that's enough for me and can cut down on your MS time a lot, freeing up time for other things.
Thirdly, you need something in real life to be "addicted" to. In theory, replacing an addiction with a bigger addiction. If you have a good group of friends, hang out with them, do things together with them (Iono, looking at your interests, maybe play rugby or work out with them?). When you're having fun in real life, you wont be worrying about maple as much and naturally your urge to MS will go down. I see you have John 3:16 in your siggy so perhaps go grab lunch with them after Sunday Service or something? "The best place on Earth is where your friends are"... If your friends are on MS, then that's the best place on Earth to you (no matter how unhealthy it might be). If your friends are at school or church, then you'd enjoy going to those places.
I'll end with this: Many people in MS are like you but few are willing to admit it, let alone have the guts to post it on a forum asking for help. I give you props for that. Good job in dealing with yourself and admiting that you have the problem and asking for help (Btw, talking to your parents and other "wise" adults will help too).
First off, I'd say there's nothing wrong with being 240 pounds. Some people are born that way and there's nothing they can do to change it. It's not like you're 240 pounds because you play MS (and dont exercise or whatnot), it seems (from what I gather here) that you're just built differently. There's nothing wrong with it so dont be afraid/lose confidence because of it (Im not saying you are, but I sure get that impression).
Secondly, life is about balance. Maple friends arent "bad" but too much maple (well, too much MS because you're there just to talk with them/spend time with them) isnt necessarily the best thing to do. It might take a while, but you have to find balance in it. For myself, the balance was using MSN/AIM to keep in contact with my friends. 90% of my buddy list/aquaintances from MS have instant messaging of some kind so I keep in contact with them there when Im not on MS. There have been spans when I dont go on ms for weeks, even months (I havent been on ms for 2 weeks now. I've been busy with church matters such as Vacation Bible School, Youth Group, Music Group, etc) and I still keep in contact with my International friends (my term for MS friends). Sure I might not spend time with them as much as if I was on ms, but just having the casual convo here and there, keeping track of how they're doing and whatnot, that's enough for me and can cut down on your MS time a lot, freeing up time for other things.
Thirdly, you need something in real life to be "addicted" to. In theory, replacing an addiction with a bigger addiction. If you have a good group of friends, hang out with them, do things together with them (Iono, looking at your interests, maybe play rugby or work out with them?). When you're having fun in real life, you wont be worrying about maple as much and naturally your urge to MS will go down. I see you have John 3:16 in your siggy so perhaps go grab lunch with them after Sunday Service or something? "The best place on Earth is where your friends are"... If your friends are on MS, then that's the best place on Earth to you (no matter how unhealthy it might be). If your friends are at school or church, then you'd enjoy going to those places.
I'll end with this: Many people in MS are like you but few are willing to admit it, let alone have the guts to post it on a forum asking for help. I give you props for that. Good job in dealing with yourself and admiting that you have the problem and asking for help (Btw, talking to your parents and other "wise" adults will help too).