2009-01-02, 05:16 PM
I think there's something you're forgetting here, Harrison; You dont HAVE to be married. It's not like your only choices are:
1. Marry a girl character who's actually played by a guy
2. Marry some random stranger who I have no idea who they are
3. Marry a friend that might divorce me when they find a REAL online relationship
There's also this choice:
4. Just dont get married in game.
I personally chose 4 as it's just the simplest one. Am I perhaps losing out on a consistent income with apples? Perhaps in fact most likely, but Im fine with that; Im able to come up with mesos through other sources and Ive never been overly lacking in mesos, I dont need to get married to "stay afloat", so to say. That being said, in return, I dont have to worry about some "girl" ending up being a guy, I dont have to worry about someone <maybe> divorcing me when they find a "real" relationship and I can keep my conscience clean in regards to "marrying a random".
If you clean out all the other logistics and strip the issue down to it's basics, there are two reasons most people get married:
1. For the money you make through APQ
2. For the symbolic "relationship" it represents
3. (In KasuHitomi's case... it's Khoi right?)cause I can and it was free
If you're doing it for 1, which it seems many people are, it <technically> doesnt matter who you marry, granted they dont divorce you (in which marrying a mule would be perfect and maybe even better than marrying a friend/random because you can APQ twice and make even more money!). The issue isnt who you're marrying, it's more if they'll divorce you afterwards for whatever reason. Who it is, whether guy or girl, friend or random shouldnt matter other than the "potential divorce" factor.
If it's for 2, then who you matter does indeed matter because you're doing it for what it stands for, not for the APQ. Sure APQs might be a nice bonus, but ultimately, you'd probably have done it regardless of if APQ was released or not. Chances are, you'd probably WANT to be divorced if it was to happen.
As for the whole "it's online, it's not real" thing, I see "online" as an extension of your actual personality; How you are online is how you <really> are when you know you can get away with it with little consequence. Though it's possible to be an ass both in a game and in real life, it's not very often you see a person who's an ass in game and super nice in real life and the ones that do fit this category usually turn out "not very nice" in real life either. That being said, I dont think online relationships should be looked upon with scorn, mainly because they CAN happen and Ive often seen online relationships that work better than real life ones. Really, the determining factor shouldnt be whether it's online or not, but rather how seriously it's taken and why people are doing it. Sure, online relationships are harder to maintain and keep up because you cant really do very much with it outside of the game, but I know many that do work. Just because this is a "game" and it's "online", that doesnt mean it's not real because the people you meet are definitely real and like yourself, they have feelings and emotions too.
Ps. I use whisper chat all the time. It's where I have my one on one conversations with most friends as then it's easier to track through all the buddy list spam and also it allows for it to be more private instead of having buddies randomly commenting on it... besides, personally, I dont like it when I see people just having conversations in buddy chat anyways... it spams it up and whatnot D: I think we've had a conversation or two in whispers on various topics before, even when we're both on buddy list, lol.
That being said, "Spouse chat" is kinda useless as chances are, there are better ways to talk to people in private than that such as msn, skype, sms, etc. and if its not someone you can talk to on those things because you dont know them well enough, well chances are, you wont be using Spouse chat then anyways so lol.
Pps. Harrison, werent you married at one point or another? I seem to remember your character was married when I met it, lol.
1. Marry a girl character who's actually played by a guy
2. Marry some random stranger who I have no idea who they are
3. Marry a friend that might divorce me when they find a REAL online relationship
There's also this choice:
4. Just dont get married in game.
I personally chose 4 as it's just the simplest one. Am I perhaps losing out on a consistent income with apples? Perhaps in fact most likely, but Im fine with that; Im able to come up with mesos through other sources and Ive never been overly lacking in mesos, I dont need to get married to "stay afloat", so to say. That being said, in return, I dont have to worry about some "girl" ending up being a guy, I dont have to worry about someone <maybe> divorcing me when they find a "real" relationship and I can keep my conscience clean in regards to "marrying a random".
If you clean out all the other logistics and strip the issue down to it's basics, there are two reasons most people get married:
1. For the money you make through APQ
2. For the symbolic "relationship" it represents
3. (In KasuHitomi's case... it's Khoi right?)cause I can and it was free
If you're doing it for 1, which it seems many people are, it <technically> doesnt matter who you marry, granted they dont divorce you (in which marrying a mule would be perfect and maybe even better than marrying a friend/random because you can APQ twice and make even more money!). The issue isnt who you're marrying, it's more if they'll divorce you afterwards for whatever reason. Who it is, whether guy or girl, friend or random shouldnt matter other than the "potential divorce" factor.
If it's for 2, then who you matter does indeed matter because you're doing it for what it stands for, not for the APQ. Sure APQs might be a nice bonus, but ultimately, you'd probably have done it regardless of if APQ was released or not. Chances are, you'd probably WANT to be divorced if it was to happen.
As for the whole "it's online, it's not real" thing, I see "online" as an extension of your actual personality; How you are online is how you <really> are when you know you can get away with it with little consequence. Though it's possible to be an ass both in a game and in real life, it's not very often you see a person who's an ass in game and super nice in real life and the ones that do fit this category usually turn out "not very nice" in real life either. That being said, I dont think online relationships should be looked upon with scorn, mainly because they CAN happen and Ive often seen online relationships that work better than real life ones. Really, the determining factor shouldnt be whether it's online or not, but rather how seriously it's taken and why people are doing it. Sure, online relationships are harder to maintain and keep up because you cant really do very much with it outside of the game, but I know many that do work. Just because this is a "game" and it's "online", that doesnt mean it's not real because the people you meet are definitely real and like yourself, they have feelings and emotions too.
Ps. I use whisper chat all the time. It's where I have my one on one conversations with most friends as then it's easier to track through all the buddy list spam and also it allows for it to be more private instead of having buddies randomly commenting on it... besides, personally, I dont like it when I see people just having conversations in buddy chat anyways... it spams it up and whatnot D: I think we've had a conversation or two in whispers on various topics before, even when we're both on buddy list, lol.
That being said, "Spouse chat" is kinda useless as chances are, there are better ways to talk to people in private than that such as msn, skype, sms, etc. and if its not someone you can talk to on those things because you dont know them well enough, well chances are, you wont be using Spouse chat then anyways so lol.
Pps. Harrison, werent you married at one point or another? I seem to remember your character was married when I met it, lol.