2009-01-02, 07:52 AM
Well no, whisper isn't very good when talking to more than one person, but spouse chat is worse because you CAN'T talk to more than one person. It's not worth the effort of switching to. I would prefer to talk to my spouse through any of the other chats that I have much greater likelihood to use. I don't use whisper very often, nor am I trying to say it's that great, but it still is better than spouse chat in every way.
You can act in real life as well, but it's much easier to notice when someone is doing so. Things besides just the verbal communication such as body language can give it away. There are people that are particularly good at it, but few can keep it up for very long and in every situation that is thrown at them. After you get to know someone well enough (which you can't do on the internet) they will show themselves whether or not they intend to. I would take the person that they are in real life as the "real" them, of course. At least minimal observation of their daily behavior would be required to see it though.
In real life people are much more vulnerable. They are put in a position where they simply can't say some things in certain ways. Like saying that they are a ripped MMA fighter in a fashion besides joking, if they don't actually meet those conditions. Online you are nearly invincible, and could pull off the above and actually have dumb people believe you. If things such as IP addresses didn't exist, you would be practically invincible. You can be the coolest person ever on the internet, but in real life you will inevitably be found out if your claims aren't true. It's not very hard to see the impact that anonymity has.
I add people to my buddylist that I find interesting. I delete people that I find generic and boring. I add people that train with me or do the things you mention sometimes, but I usually delete them if they say or do things that are lame. I'm pretty picky, I only have about 10 people on my buddy list right now.
I am realistic, not cynical. I would love for there to be hot person of the opposite gender that is around my age to be madly in love with me to such an extent that they must chat me up for hours on Maple Story, but I've accepted the fact that it's really an old, ugly person. I learned this when I was 12 and played Starcraft all night.
You can act in real life as well, but it's much easier to notice when someone is doing so. Things besides just the verbal communication such as body language can give it away. There are people that are particularly good at it, but few can keep it up for very long and in every situation that is thrown at them. After you get to know someone well enough (which you can't do on the internet) they will show themselves whether or not they intend to. I would take the person that they are in real life as the "real" them, of course. At least minimal observation of their daily behavior would be required to see it though.
In real life people are much more vulnerable. They are put in a position where they simply can't say some things in certain ways. Like saying that they are a ripped MMA fighter in a fashion besides joking, if they don't actually meet those conditions. Online you are nearly invincible, and could pull off the above and actually have dumb people believe you. If things such as IP addresses didn't exist, you would be practically invincible. You can be the coolest person ever on the internet, but in real life you will inevitably be found out if your claims aren't true. It's not very hard to see the impact that anonymity has.
I add people to my buddylist that I find interesting. I delete people that I find generic and boring. I add people that train with me or do the things you mention sometimes, but I usually delete them if they say or do things that are lame. I'm pretty picky, I only have about 10 people on my buddy list right now.
I am realistic, not cynical. I would love for there to be hot person of the opposite gender that is around my age to be madly in love with me to such an extent that they must chat me up for hours on Maple Story, but I've accepted the fact that it's really an old, ugly person. I learned this when I was 12 and played Starcraft all night.