2013-08-30, 07:10 PM
SaptaZapta Wrote:That's the only issue?
Like, if your grandma were to hand you a cheque for RM 20K, you'd go and find a wife right away?
Happy Independence Day.
The issue is actually:
1) I don't have decent paychecks for my current job, thinking the possibility of the marriage to be last longer. My paycheck is around RM 800-1300, depending on projects and incentives.
2) This is might be related with my country's culture, but dowry, wedding costs is much hell if including wedding clothes, make up for wedding ceremony for bride, catering and everything related with wedding. Like my family want to maintain the our race's tradition as Malays. -facepalm- I argued this point with my family before I went to sleep. Here's the summary of things happened:
Mom: We want you to follow the tradition, RM 10k for the dowry.
Haru: What the-
Dad: Catering isnt a problem to me.
Haru: Mom, dad, stop it. I haven't decide any-
Grandma: Go and find your future wife.
Haru: Hello, I'm not even ready for marriage, I haven't learned fully to bear those big responsibility even after marriage. If I want to marry someone, I want to make the wedding will be simple, without being tied to tradition culture of Malay. Just a very, simple wedding ceremony with the way of a modest Muslim does and a small thanksgiving feast for villagers in my village. And, I don't have decent paychecks for my job now. Then all of you pushing this on me. -facepalm-
3) I'm still not ready for marriage and not having enough knowledge regarding responsibility post-marriage. I've seen enough issues regarding a grown adult will ditch his/her parents to welfare house, even in front of my eyes. I don't want to be ungrateful child to my parents. Just marriage only I can think worst possible issues, from raising a child and future problems to issues with parents with both sides of party, living costs, shelter, food. I want to raise my child with the Islam's method because only my grandmother, my mother and me care about daily religion practices.
Sapta: if my grandma want to give RM 20K to me, probably I will say [Use the money to do Hajj in Mecca for your sake] to her.
And thanks Sapta.