After nearly ten years together, my husband and I are now separated. AMA

Are those feelings dissipating now that he has had the option to leave you but chose not too?

As much as I hate to admit it, those feelings have not gone away completely. It is difficult to change your perspective when you've lived most of your life believing that every man has a dark, sexually depraved side of him. That men cannot be trusted to keep it in their pants. It is one of the things I am working to change about the way I see the world.

I'm not saying he was a scumbag, or in anyway brought a fair reason of doubt, but are the actions taken changing your perspective to be blindly optimistic until disappointing? That's how I live my life, it's a huge risk, but you end up with life long friends. I don't know throes, I never thought of someone like you being insecure, it surprises me

I'm not trying to be a dick but I really have no clue what you're asking here.

You are surprised that I am insecure because I choose not to show that side of my personality to you. In reality I am flat-chested and have crooked teeth. My hair is unruly and uncooperative. I chose to pursue a degree in animation, yet I have done nothing with that degree. I was recently asked to step down from my position managing the largest store in my company and take on a smaller store instead. Insecurity abounds, my friend. And until I can get over it and love me for me we will be stuck at square one and nothing will change.