After nearly ten years together, my husband and I are now separated. AMA

Are those feelings dissipating now that he has had the option to leave you but chose not too? I'm not saying he was a scumbag, or in anyway brought a fair reason of doubt, but are the actions taken changing your perspective to be blindly optimistic until disappointing? That's how I live my life, it's a huge risk, but you end up with life long friends. I don't know throes, I never thought of someone like you being insecure, it surprises me