2013-07-14, 08:51 PM
Don't feel too sorry for me. I had an equal part in creating the dynamic that caused the rift between us. As painful as it may be in the moment, this whole turn of events has actually been a catalyst for some much needed self-reflection and growth. I've realized that our relationship and our lives had been stagnant for a while and if we had continued the way we'd been going, we would have eventually brought children into a dysfunctional home full of resentment and regret.
On that note, if there are any survivors of sexual abuse out there reading this, I highly advise you to get counseling or other professional help in dealing with the long term effects of the abuse. In my case, I had actually been to a counselor in my teen years, but I did not get much value from it at the time. Though I feel I was very fortunate in having a very supportive family and extensive support system growing up, there were still issues that had been left very much unresolved, the biggest one being some very deep trust issues.
[spoiler=of all the books I've read thus far, this one has helped me the most][video=youtube;evMOK8fBVM0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evMOK8fBVM0[/video][/spoiler]
On that note, if there are any survivors of sexual abuse out there reading this, I highly advise you to get counseling or other professional help in dealing with the long term effects of the abuse. In my case, I had actually been to a counselor in my teen years, but I did not get much value from it at the time. Though I feel I was very fortunate in having a very supportive family and extensive support system growing up, there were still issues that had been left very much unresolved, the biggest one being some very deep trust issues.
[spoiler=of all the books I've read thus far, this one has helped me the most][video=youtube;evMOK8fBVM0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evMOK8fBVM0[/video][/spoiler]