2013-03-27, 02:48 PM
Okay some context is in order.
1) He already feels guilty about how he treats my sister and is constant fear of favoritism issues. We had this discussion a month ago about how he helped with her car and sh`it because she needs it for the future.
2) I have tried that negotiation method of asking him to just put the money away for me. I was snapped back, quite quickly about how it's not his responsibility. This includes house/engagement bull sh`it. If I can't afford it, tough sh`it. It's not his problem.
3) His parents, (adopted) are ruthless. My grandmother is probably the worst person on the face of the Earth, by far. My cousin Kristy, again not related, has a mess of social issues (gender/sexual flip flopper), her dad abandoned her and she tried getting out, but my grandma forces her to pay 50% of her paycheck. No questions asked if she wants to stay there. Eventually she ended up getting together with some girl in virginia to run away, but to give you an idea, I'll probably sooner end up bankrupt in my house than him to just "accept" that I have to have more money in order to progress.
4) My mother/mother sides of the family completely disagrees with it, and there has been a few fights over the years about it. So that opinion is already out there.
As much as I hope he'd look at the finacial information as a wake up call, I wouldn't put it past him to claim that I shouldn't want things I can't realistically afford.
1) He already feels guilty about how he treats my sister and is constant fear of favoritism issues. We had this discussion a month ago about how he helped with her car and sh`it because she needs it for the future.
2) I have tried that negotiation method of asking him to just put the money away for me. I was snapped back, quite quickly about how it's not his responsibility. This includes house/engagement bull sh`it. If I can't afford it, tough sh`it. It's not his problem.
3) His parents, (adopted) are ruthless. My grandmother is probably the worst person on the face of the Earth, by far. My cousin Kristy, again not related, has a mess of social issues (gender/sexual flip flopper), her dad abandoned her and she tried getting out, but my grandma forces her to pay 50% of her paycheck. No questions asked if she wants to stay there. Eventually she ended up getting together with some girl in virginia to run away, but to give you an idea, I'll probably sooner end up bankrupt in my house than him to just "accept" that I have to have more money in order to progress.
4) My mother/mother sides of the family completely disagrees with it, and there has been a few fights over the years about it. So that opinion is already out there.
As much as I hope he'd look at the finacial information as a wake up call, I wouldn't put it past him to claim that I shouldn't want things I can't realistically afford.