Some advice, if I may ask, please?

Yes this is in the speakeasy so keep note of that fact.

How... do I go about determining just how slow this girl I'm seeing means when she says she "wants to take it slow?"

At first I thought this was just because I'm inexperienced, but..
the past few times we were out I just couldn't help notice that she still seemed a bit put off by me. I know she doesn't want to rush into anything, and that's fine. I don't wanna go rushing into something and push her to do anything she isn't willing or ready to do either. I just don't wanna be led on like a fool.

Is there some sorta sign I could look for that'd tell whether she's just being slow, or if I'm being led on?

How about asking her why she wants to take it slow?

How about asking her why she wants to take it slow?

I said why she did.

It depends on the girl, man. Chicks are complicated as f`uck, or.. at least the ones I've been dating or been in a relationship with in the past. I might have had one simple relationship, but that was it. Are you guys dating or in a relationship? I don't read your rants or most of your other threads, so I can't tell for sure. But if you're dating, and she says that, that's pretty normal. If you're in a relationship, it could mean that she'd rather get to know you, and she just wants sh`it to happen instead of either of you two rushing at it.

Personally, as a guy, I don't feel like rushing into things either. Just let sh`it smooth out as you get to know the chick. /shrug

About the only thing you said was "she didn't want to rush things"...

There's probably a reason behind that...

About the only thing you said was "she didn't want to rush things"...

There's probably a reason behind that...

Yes, because I am inexperienced. CTRL+F that.

It depends on the girl, man. Chicks are complicated as f`uck, or.. at least the ones I've been dating or been in a relationship with in the past. I might have had one simple relationship, but that was it. Are you guys dating or in a relationship? I don't read your rants or most of your other threads, so I can't tell for sure. But if you're dating, and she says that, that's pretty normal. If you're in a relationship, it could mean that she'd rather get to know you, and she just wants sh`it to happen instead of either of you two rushing at it.

Personally, as a guy, I don't feel like rushing into things either. Just let sh`it smooth out as you get to know the chick. /shrug

None of my AD rants have been about her and I (to date). Currently we're just dating.

At first I thought this was just because I'm inexperienced, but..

What you think and what the actual reason is, are two different things...

I can't tell you a sign to look for, but answer these (for yourself; actually replying to the thread is up to you):

Do you enjoy spending time with her?

Do you enjoy spending time with her even if you know there's no way you'll be, to put it bluntly, "getting any"? (basically, after an evening together, are you completely happy with just a kiss goodnight or whatever at the end)

Are you in any hurry to do anything?

Do you both value honesty?


I'm going to assume a yes on the first and last questions. If you enjoy spending time with her and you both are honest with each other, then you have nothing to be concerned about. Just make it a point that you want to be open about what you're comfortable with doing and you want her to be the same. Communication is key with relationships.

Just enjoy the ride as it goes. If she wants to take it slow, then take it slow - and just be open with her.