The Boy/Girl Thread

Around the 7th and 8th grade periods (lol, periods as in periods of time), who do you think is crueler, honestly, boys or girls? Because the latest studies show that girls are more cruel throughout upper middle school and high school than boys.

Here are my thoughts:

Girls. Are. Evil.

Seriously. Those studies don't surprise me at all. Maybe it's because in my class during those years there were like... 21 girls and 13 boys, but holy pumpernickel those bitches were mean. Ever watch Mean Girls? Yeah. Girls can be underhanded, sneaky, manipulative, evil creatures.

Yes, girls are indeed evil -- take it from this girl, who went from ugly duckling to decent looking.

Through the years of growing up, young little girls at the grades of 1-4 generally make friendships based on trust. It's a "I tell u secret and u keep it forever or else its over" kinda deal.

At grade 5-7, these girls' hormones start to kick in. Their bodies start to mature and suddenly, beauty matters. As long as you're ugly duckling, it's a lose lose deal. They don't give a crap if you can keep secrets. They're quite admirant (is there such a word?) of older girls -- role models, you could say. These are the important years of a girl's life that can change her permenantly for the rest of her life imo.

From 7-9, oh-my-freaking-god. Girls start to become vicious like you have no freaking clue. I can honestly say that at a certain point in those grades, I've gotten myself in a whole lot of pumpernickel 'cause I "talked pumpernickel" about some girl and this girl goes to her friends who go to their friends and .. yeah. lol Seriously, all I did was find a [male] classmate crying in an empty hall and told him that he was probably best finding another girl who DOES love him. And just like that, this chain-reaction happened 'cause I went and tried to comfort the poor guy. lol Teenage girls. FYI - I think girls are far more vicious than guys. Guys will beat the crap out of each other if pissed. Girls will find all ways possible to take each other down.

By grade 10, things start to clear up. Hormonal make-over's are almost completed. Girls are a bit more mature and a whole lot of that "He Said She Said"'s start to lessen but not completely non-existant. By now, girls are, for the most part, black and white. You're either a "Mean Girl" or you're the "Nice Girl". -- this is categorizing them in an extreme way.

From 11-12, a whole lot more maturity kicks in and the ladies start to understand social relationships a bit better. Social tolerance leads to giving them the ability to better get along with their peers. Not saying girls aren't vicious, though. I'm saying that they're more tolerant and more adept at covering up rude/inconsiderate/mean thoughts. But of course, let's not forget about mean girls.

By college, imo, if any girl still haven't matured up, then seriously, I wouldn't bother with these girls. It's probably not worth anyone's time trying to get along with them.


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Question to the danglers (on behalf of a rl friend in need ):

IS there ever a way to reject a nice guy without hurting them? I find myself in the situation where it goes too far and pushes my guilt limit to the point where I end up just blurting it all out. -- Which, by then, it's me getting avalanched from there. >.> I know telling him no, straight up, is probably best, but I rather reject him in a way that it'll encourage him to find somebody else instead of making him end up mulling in depression that "all nice guys get rejected".

What is on your mind when you like a girl who is not "mean" enough to call it quits with you when you push her into a relationship? What happens when you find that another guy also likes her but she doesn't like either of you?

Depends on how the guy takes it, really.

I wouldn't play the whole, its not you, its me card though, that can be very damaging to self esteem.

There is one way (that I can think of) of not hurting the guy too bad.
If you see early on in the relationship that he's interested and you're not, just tell him. For example he's trying to put his arm around your waist just give him a kinda puzzled look and say "What the pineapple are you doing?" (not in an angry bitchy kind of way), He'll most likely get the hint right away. However the stubborn (or stupid) ones will say stuff like "putting my arm around you " or something of the sorts, back away for him a bit and say "well.... don't". If he keeps doing this though then just tell him straight up that you feel nothing for him.

But after some time of him being interested in you it's a whole different story, he could get kinda obsessed about you and then there is no sure way to end it well.

Just as an advice, don't prolong his suffering. If you know that someone has feeling for you and you don't have any for him make sure he gets it fast. It's better to know right away that the girl isn't interested than nurturing false hopes that will undoubtedly be shattered.

this i guess is a tip for any girls going out with guys,

dont say i love you the first day, def no through text.


trust me...

^Oh my gawd, I hope nobody's stupid enough to do that, guy or girl, but I guess not...

And girls who hang out out with guys are just viewed as sluts

I know this was a while back, but... what? I've always been a "guy's girl", but maybe I avoided the slut thing by wearing ugly glasses and being a nerd. Who knows?


Girls are WAY crueler than guys. A guy will just punch you in the face or insult you loudly, and you get angry, you get over it, you make up or you don't. A girl will pretend to be your friend and then turn everyone else against you behind your back. Or, worse, a girl will consider you to be her "friend", but look down you because you're not as cute as she is, and constantly insult you by trying to make over not only the way you look, but the way you act and who you are.

...Yeah, personal experience.

Interestingly, a lot of people think that gay guys act like girls socially. That's not really the case. (I know most of the gay population of my college town, so yeah.) Yes, they do have drama and it doesn't usually involve punching people in the face, but it lasts max a few weeks and then it's over. Girls hold grudges more, I think.


Also, sensitive guys without gross muscles and with curly hair and long eyelashes FTW. (Maybe this is just my taste from my boyfriend of 3 years, who I am very much in love with.)


To the guys (and girls I guess): Are you put off by a girl who has guy roommates, even if they're gay? What's so different about roommates as opposed to having a brother or a father in the house? Heck, I'd be a LOT more awkward if I saw my dad naked, or a brother if I had one. At least with my friends, I can laugh it off.

Also, guys: Do you get offended by the media (particularly advertising) portraying guys these days as uber-casual, barbequeing, sports-watching, smelly oafs just for a laugh? Personally, I think that sexism (even "reverse") with humor is still sexism.

oh and a question, how do you girls feel about acne on a guy?

i had really bad acne over the summer, but its gotten much better...

Personally, I used to have bad acne myself, so I don't care too much. I mean, I care, because it sort of pains me to look at it and remember what I went through. (And I used to pop, so pimples that are about to pop on their own freak me out because I want to reach over and squeeze them. I know that's gross. x_x)

If you squint, 99% of the time you don't even notice. I don't know. It's a habit I got from looking in the mirror all those years.

It's not like the poor guy can help it most of the time. Most acne medications don't work on the bad cases, those that really need help, and if they do, they have horrible side effects like suicide risk and personality changes. :f6:


What do you guys think of acne on a girl? The kind that can't be hidden well with makeup, especially.

[COLOR="Purple"]I don't care if people have it. It doesn't change who they are in the inside. I'm not shallow lol.

I had a problem when I was like 19 and I found out I had some medical issues and I got acne, not real bad but bad enough to bother me. Anyways, my mom bought me Proactiv. It worked like a charm. I used it for like 1 year and I haven't had problems since. When I get a "zit" or whatever I just apply some and it's gone.

How do you guys feel about how the media portrays females as alot of them being sex objects and not really having brains?[/COLOR]

[COLOR="Purple"]I don't care if people have it. It doesn't change who they are in the inside. I'm not shallow lol.

I had a problem when I was like 19 and I found out I had some medical issues and I got acne, not real bad but bad enough to bother me. Anyways, my mom bought me Proactiv. It worked like a charm. I used it for like 1 year and I haven't had problems since. When I get a "zit" or whatever I just apply some and it's gone.

How do you guys feel about how the media portrays females as alot of them being sex objects and not really having brains?[/COLOR]

Woah, you're the only person I know who uses Proactiv that worked!

For question, it depends. The stereotypical hot dumb blonde, eh, I just think that when they get older they'll end up in a dump somewhere. No looks, no brains...woot. If they happen to get married, it will usually end up in a divorce and then they'll probably end up in a dump somewhere.
However, if they're rolling in money *cough* Britney Spears *cough*, I get really annoyed.

How do you guys feel about how the media portrays females as alot of them being sex objects and not really having brains?

That's not really true. But I don't portray girls as a sex object and that's what counts.

It's like seeing murder on TV... you don't go out and commit murder.

I'd probably prefer to be 10 lbs overweight, if most of that weight was muscle.

I'm already on the underweight side of the scale (I weigh less than 100 lbs ) and I'm trying to gain weight (I'm taking judo this semester and eating 4-5 times a day, plus walking to and from work.)

It is kinda nice being small sometimes, but my lack of boobage makes it frustrating when I'm looking for bras/dresses/tops that fit well. I would like to have a little bit more of a curvy figure.

edit: For the guys...

Rate the following in order of importance to you in terms of a woman's physical appearance (shallow I know, but I'm really curious. )

____ boobs
____ butt
____ legs
____ face

my opinion is
skin tone/complexion (acne is acceptable as long as you don't have like...the white pus-filled ones on your face)>butt>boobs>legs
but if I have to do your way
face>butt>boobs>legs

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How do you guys feel about how the media portrays females as alot of them being sex objects and not really having brains?[/COLOR]

I dislike that, to be honest. It's mostly media that influences the teenagers of today's generation.. which causes guys to think girls are sex-objects. And girls to be.. well, .. sluts. Not all of them, of course. Just the preppy / popular type of girl that you normally see in High school.

When I think about my girlfriend, I won't lie... 80% of the time, I think about it in a sexual kinda way, but I can't help it. =/ Hormones, I guess. However, I really do love her, and when I'm having a conversation with her, I feel like she's someone I can really connect with and completely understand. Not all girls are as you see them on the television, thank God. xP

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How do you guys feel about how the media portrays females as alot of them being sex objects and not really having brains?[/COLOR]

I'd love to have a woman that had a lot of brains rather than gigantic boobs.
My perfect woman :
5'3~5'7
105~130 lbs
B+ sized breasts, nice figure
Either graduated college (bachelors or masters degree would be nice) or has just as much common sense as I do.
Very confident, not afraid of other peoples's opinions (also doesn't care about things that are just a number IE : weight and age).
Non-gossipy and knows what secrets are better left between two people.
Ultimately controls the household, but acknowleges that I need my manhood in most situations.
But this is for the future, as I am merely a teenager.

for a view into the mind of man, (text only) my friend chris showed me this: http://www.dysan.net/weird/show/645.html

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Also, guys: Do you get offended by the media (particularly advertising) portraying guys these days as uber-casual, barbequeing, sports-watching, smelly oafs just for a laugh? Personally, I think that sexism (even "reverse") with humor is still sexism.

its annoying and sad. I hate sports i like to make sure im clean and most guys i know hate those casual guys. By the way i hate barbequing everything always ends up burnt. I think that type of guy gives all other guys a bad name and if it really does exist it should be hunted to extinction.

To girls. How come every time i'm talking to a friend on the phone and i disagree with her they always freak out and say "well you just don't know how i feel" Just because were guys doesnt mean we don't understand basic human emotions like love and sadness.

__2__ boobs
__4__ butt
__3__ legs
__1__ face