I think I went on a date...

So, I was just at the mall with some friends for a long time.
Although, me and my friends also planned to meet up with this korean guy I had met over the internet. He lived in houston, and is in 9th grade. We've skyped a few times and he plays kMS too. I kinda like him, but the age thing sorta made me feel awkward about it. So when we met up I was so nervous. At first I kinda was shy and didn't talk to him much, but my two friends kept ditching us on purpose so we would talk. We eventually wandered away and walked to Target and just kept talking about stuff. I was so nervous. Thennnnn, we had to go back to where we met up. He had came to the mall with his church, which was a hard obstacle to avoid, and he was sorta forced be with them for a while. After we went back and he took his group photo we went and played DDR. I felt so bad, I was getting A's on heavy and he was failing. DDD:
lotsalaughs, and then we got coffee and were back with the original group. Then happened truth or dare. >_>
SO AWKWARD AND NERVOUS.
We got dared to hug, and then he had to kiss my hand. I regret playing DDR, because I think I was a little sweaty. ;;

This is the first "date" I've ever been on, and I sorta like him. Only issue is the age thing, but he's pretty mature for his age. We're going to Cici's on Sunday. I wish he didn't live in Houston, the major issue is distance. ><'



IDK WHAT TO DO, should I pursue or not pursue? :<

What age are you?

What's wrong with his age?

How old are you, how old is he, and how far is the distance in terms of minutes by car or plane?

I'm 16, he's 14.

He lives at most 20-30 minutes away. Depending on traffic and all that, but I can't drive yet. My father refuses to get me Driver's ED which is required to get a permit.

Go for it. If you think it can last.

That's really the only condition you need to consider.

PICS, PICS, PiCS.

YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS.

Also, the big issue of being out.
We both aren't, and he really can't be with his family.
His mom is a korean hyperchristian that dominates his life.

I'll get some pics, he's so innocent and cute lol.
I don't want to taint him.

[COLOR="Magenta"]I say go with your gut.

If he's mature for his age, and you like him there's no harm.

Just make sure to relax and take things slow. Don't rush into a relationship D: That spells disaster. Friends first!~ Then wait for him to make the right move.

Just my opinion~

But best of luck to you and hope everything turns out wonderful!
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Go for it. If you think it can last.

That's really the only condition you need to consider.

Almost nothing in life "lasts". If you live your entire life waiting for something perfect and permanent you'll die old bitter and alone having missed out on almost everything.

At 14 & 16 they could move at any time, they have post-graduation to consider, college, jobs.

Worry about if it will last is pointless angst; live in the now, enjoy it responsibly and treasure each moment like it may be the last because life is on it's own terms, not ours.

Almost nothing in life "lasts". If you live your entire life waiting for something perfect and permanent you'll die old bitter and alone having missed out on almost everything.

At 14 & 16 they could move at any time, they have post-graduation to consider, college, jobs.

Worry about if it will last is pointless angst; live in the now, enjoy it responsibly and treasure each moment like it may be the last because life is on it's own terms, not ours.

Such a downer.

Go for it Tay.

Such a downer.

Go for it Tay.

Quite the contrary.

Go for it Tay.

Quite the contrary.

At least one person understood the message.

Almost nothing in life "lasts". If you live your entire life waiting for something perfect and permanent you'll die old bitter and alone having missed out on almost everything.

By "last" I didn't mean permanent, though that would be ideal. I realize that nothing is permanent, but my point is that if they're only going to be at it for like one week, then they shouldn't go for it.

By "last" I didn't mean permanent, though that would be ideal. I realize that nothing is permanent, but my point is that if they're only going to be at it for like one week, then they shouldn't go for it.

If they don't "go for it" how will they ever know if it has any chance of lasting longer than a week? You have to test the waters to find out if they're comfortable or not and in most cases you even have to submerge enough to begin acclimating.

I'd say go for it. It's pretty rare to find someone that meet your ideal tastes, let alone meeting that someone over the internet... and an MMO. I wished that happened to me, kind of.

The problem is that it's a gay relationship. And from what I understand, for the gay fourteen year old at least, his parents don't even know if he's gay or not. I think it takes some major balls to tell your parents that you're gay and shows that you've truly grown a pair. Being gay while attempting to avoid conflicts is a sticky situation that only continues to escalate and gets harder to maintain the more intimate the relationship becomes. Telling your parents while you are young might be the best time as it allows them to truly know who you are as a person and form a real bond with that part of you as a person.

The problem is that it's a gay relationship. And from what I understand, for the gay fourteen year old at least, his parents don't even know if he's gay or not.

That doesn't really matter.
Unless they're just looking for sex all they are are two guys who want the opportunity to hang out and get to know each other better. That's a pretty normal male dynamic, gay straight or otherwise. Guys have guy friends. Gals have gal friends. Those are accepted norms. There's nothing to explain, hide or justify.

Until intimacy actually comes into the picture, which is entirely up to them if they ever even do get that far, the gay bit is just a little unrelated data that can be dealt with when it needs to be.

huh, when did he/she say it was a gay relationship. o.o or are you talking about yourself.

huh, when did he/she say it was a gay relationship. o.o or are you talking about yourself.

Aside from the many uses of male pronoun, there was also this lovely red flag of clueness:

Also, the big issue of being out.
We both aren't, and he really can't be with his family.
His mom is a korean hyperchristian that dominates his life.

Tay is homosexual. This is not really a disputed fact.