Throws Wrote:For all of you saying "call the police," just... no.
What the hell would they be able to do? It's not like his friend is on the top of a building threatening to jump. And what would he say? "Oh uh... I have a friend online and he says he wants to commit suicide sometime in the new year but I don't know where he lives or when he wants to commit suicide." Seriously?
To me, it sounds more like a cry for help/attention than anything else. He is in a very stressful situation and feels helpless.
IMO, what he needs is some reassurance that his situation is not that bad. Guess what? People get rejected from universities all the time. Kids get kicked out of their parents' houses every day. And you know what they do? They find a way to deal with it and move forward with their lives.
I mean, let's take a look at the worst-case scenario. Let's say he gets rejected from the university he wanted to go to and gets kicked out of his house. Wouldn't you be a friend and let him stay with you for a while? Doesn't he have other family he could stay with? What's to stop him from taking a year off from school, getting a job, saving up money, and trying again the next year? Or even going to a community college and getting his general education out of the way and transferring later on?
The point is, there are many, many options besides suicide. Horus, I think it's your job as a friend to knock some sense into him. Do you honestly believe that his life would not be worth living just because he got rejected from a university? Life isn't about getting everything you want! Guess what: a lot of things in life will not go how you want. Things will not happen how you expected. I got rejected from all my first choices in colleges, but I turned out fine. Hell, I wouldn't have even met my fiance if I didn't get rejected from all my first choices.
Be a friend, dammit.
Thank you, what you said helped a lot.
The thing is that he doesn't have many friends and I don't think that anyone would want him to be living with them.
Besides me, I think he only talks to 2 other people.
One, lives in the basement with his family in a rented house. I've been to his house, you can't really fit another person in there, and I doubt that his parents would allow it.
Another is a kid who's failing at school badly, but his parents are rich and doesn't care. I don't think they will let some random guy live with them, especially considering that he stinks and only showers once a week.
And i'm probably going to live in a campus in university in another city.
About his situation I should have explained more about the relationship between him and me.
Let's call him Bob.
I met him in gr 10, at that time we all try to stay away from him cause he stinks so much. One day I was talking to my friend during class and got caught by the teacher and the teacher made me sit beside Bob. Bob stinks so much, and for the entire class I was holding my breath. Bob tried to talk to me, and I was being nice and talked. Nearly to the end of the class for some stupid reason I asked "How often do you shower?" without thinking. He felt embarrassed and I kinda regretted it saying it. And then we stopped talking until the end of the class. The next day surprisingly he doesn't stink anymore. He actually showered. Later we just start to have simple conversations like saying "hi" when we see each other. Later, in a group project he's in my group and I asked for his MSN. After that he chats with me on MSN alot although he doesn't say alot when I meet him in RL. Some of the conversations we've had are quite deep, but other times he's just bored and try to talk BS and I had to block him, (I never told him that I blocked him though). There are only 2 other person that I block more than him, 1 in my 12 yr old brother, another is a stupid kid who keeps on asking me for hwk, when I don't even do them. Anyways at lunch Bob doesn't even sit with me cause he doesn't know my other friends.
Basically he's not very social.
but academic wise, he's above average, not as smart as me. but getting above average marks, except English and Chemistry which he's below average.
I don't think he can get a job. Because of his poor communication skills, he'll fail the interview for sure
That's why i was thinking that he's useless.
Anyways I'll just try talking to him about what you said, Throw.
).. I know he's your friend and he'll probably think you're a NOOB if you did, but think of it this way.. would you rather see him ALIVE again? & knowing that you could do something to stop him..
