An open-relationship

Ok, I want some opinions on this. What are your views on it? Open relationship is defined as a relationship in which both partners are free to explore (as in, to meet other people), but within certain boundaries and limits. Do you guys tend to take an open-relationship less serious than a regular relationship? Or do you just think that there can be less drawbacks to it? Alsp, have you ever been in an open-relationship vs a regular relationship? Discuss.

There's no commitment. Either you commit or don't. Can't call it both.

Open relationships are just another excuse to run around on your partner and not get in trouble for it.

I don't even consider an open-relationship to be a real relationship. It's only a relationship by the loosest definition of the word. Sex buddies. People too weak-minded to commit to someone. A "get out of jail free card" for cheating. It's a relationship for people not looking for a serious relationship, really.

I would never be in one. I would want to be with someone who is dedicated to me. As in, actually cares about me. I don't think someone truly cares about someone else if they're okay with them off kissing, having sex, etc. with other people. Your partner having friends is something completely different.

Its generally a BAD idea.


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You'd be better to go with SUPER FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
than with "open relationship"

I don't even consider an open-relationship to be a real relationship. It's only a relationship by the loosest definition of the word. Sex buddies. People too weak-minded to commit to someone. A "get out of jail free card" for cheating. It's a relationship for people not looking for a serious relationship, really.

I would never be in one. I would want to be with someone who is dedicated to me. As in, actually cares about me. I don't think someone truly cares about someone else if they're okay with them off kissing, having sex, etc. with other people. Your partner having friends is something completely different.

Right, but what if the person just wants to be in an open-relationship because they are either inexperienced or because they enjoy meeting others? I'm not saying they're "sex buddies" either, what if both of those people happens to be similar to a "bff"?

Right, but what if the person just wants to be in an open-relationship because they are either inexperienced or because they enjoy meeting others? I'm not saying they're "sex buddies" either, what if both of those people happens to be similar to a "bff"?

That is called being close friends.
Or Cuddle buddies.

That is called being close friends.
Or Cuddle buddies.

That's where I'm trying to get at. If the male/female has feelings for the other person, but only wants a cuddle-buddy, and also wishes to meet others people, is that morally wrong? Like, if both people considers the other person to be a very close friend that understands them rather well, and wishes to be in an open relationship, would that be deemed as immorral?

You're not even in a romantic relationship with someone if you're only friends. If you're doing things like "cuddling," though, perhaps it would be best to make sure she knows you're not in a romantic relationship together. If you've both established you're not "together," then I don't see what the big deal is.

Having a close friend doesn't mean you can't go out seeking a romantic relationship.

And then I thought about if you did go and find someone to be romantically involved with. She surely would not be okay with your cuddling friend. You need to just commit to someone, man. Everything about this is asking for a mess.

Screw it. Simplified point of what I'm saying: I consider cuddling something you do with your romantic partner. There.

That's where I'm trying to get at. If the male/female has feelings for the other person, but only wants a cuddle-buddy, and also wishes to meet others people, is that morally wrong? Like, if both people considers the other person to be a very close friend that understands them rather well, and wishes to be in an open relationship, would that be deemed as immorral?

Its up to the individuals but as long as everyone knows everything then you are not at fault.

It is THEIR responsibility to say when THEY are uncomfortable.

Right, but what if the person just wants to be in an open-relationship because they are either inexperienced or because they enjoy meeting others? I'm not saying they're "sex buddies" either, what if both of those people happens to be similar to a "bff"?

There's never sex involved with "bffs". A bff is a someone close to you where you share what you're feeling for the day, share common interest and a common laugh. A bff is what Rugrats (if people still remember Rugrats) called "bestest friend".

Though there isn't anything wrong with a partner going out with someone else for lunch or dinner with no strings attached. Couples should be able to trust each other enough to let their partner go out on to dinner without worried about being cheated on or feeling insecure (however if the person they're going out with has other motives, that should be taken into consideration of BOTH partners. That's effective communication). This can be defined as "meeting others".

But open-ended relationships are just free tickets to cheat without it being called cheating. They're essentially church indulgences of the Romanesque--a ticket to sin before sinning.