Five Second Pose Wrote:[IMGSPOILER=my bed has gone missing]http://i.imgur.com/PujdjPM.jpg[/imgspoiler]
Do you wear contacts? I think you'd look really good with them.
Otherwise I think you just need some style basics, like truly knowing your sizes (fun fact: I often find most guys wearing clothes 1-2 sizes too big, or cuts of apparel that are billowy, untailored, and unflattering on their body type; just these quick changes alone do a world of improvement for one's basic style). Though you're not that bad, Ray.
CrazyForDex Wrote:I also agree with Worthyness, that women could make a man's job a little easier by picking up on those signs and making her feelings clear if/when confronted. Personally, I tend to be pretty terrible at always picking up on body language/signs, especially if it is from a girl I have interest in.
I'm just going to re-quote the OP of the rant by saying body language/signs are not difficult to learn. I understand some may be hard, especially at times when emotions cloud proper understanding and/or the signs are inefficiently conveyed, but all your comments further put the responsibility and blame on women for not going above and beyond at making their full intentions clear.
What about the guys? The first anecdote in DivaLion's story accurately highlights this: more often than not, infatuated "Nice Guys" are cryptic, ambiguous, and quite irregular with their "friendship," focusing so much on trying to woo a girl without actually outwardly showing or saying anything (due to shyness/fear), which is all ultimately viewed by the girl as anything but deep friendship with romantic undertones. Point being, the guy needs to be just a forthright and clear as you described your wishes for the girl.
Worthyness Wrote:I have no objections. If someone wants something, they'll do something about it. Though I'm sure there are individuals who do think it's extremely hard for them to ask someone out. Especially when, as the author portrays, that women are so good at reading body language and want men to guess every little thing that they assume is common knowledge and obvious. Not every man is a brilliant genius who can read the signs of "OMG GET AWAY FROM ME" and/or "OMG I LOVE YOU WHY DON'T YOU ASK ME OUT NOW?" Again, it's on each individual and on their motivation to do so. Relationships are built on trust and the connections between the individuals (add a little spontaneity in there and you've got some fun stuff going on) and it is the initiative to try and start those connections that gets a relationship going. That or everyone could just be a whole lot less mysterious and just outright reveal what they're feeling/what they want, but that kind of ruins the fun of this whole idea doesn't it?
Everything in life is about maintaining a balance: you want to be clear and honest with your intentions, both as a friend and prospective significant other, but yes, like you said, you do want to have some fun with mystique and romance both before and during a relationship. However, this again requires both partners to strike a mutual balance in the effort and responsibility they have in understanding their other half, meaning both must actively and accurately know the other, communicating with them, and working genuinely and passionately at strengthening and deepening the connection.
Also, with regards to your point about women expecting so much out of guys:
DivaLion Wrote:There now. I feel better. Maybe sometime soon I will write about psycho girlfriends and how they expect you to anticipate the things they aren't going to bother to talk to you about
Last paragraph, brah. She recognizes this issue as well, and it's true; for example, if a girl is saying "OMG I LOVE YOU WHY DON'T YOU ASK ME OUT NOW?" she's in the fault for not stepping up to the plate and making her feelings known, for making the "leap of faith." But don't think it discredits anything she said about "Nice Guys".
Worthyness Wrote:haha I thought it was implied? 
Of course, I just didn't want to exclude the disclaimer and have the post potentially read as an attack on you or anything.
Seanny Wrote:It is a problem, that's something I'd like to see change, I'd love for the media to start sending out the message that its okay to talk about stuff like that WITHOUT giving the impression of being 'anti-masculine'. It'd be a slow process of course. It would be a really good thing to target towards teenage demographics, before they become adults and set in their ways and solidified their beliefs.
This is everything I was going to say to your first post. I completely agree with all you said and do also dearly wish to speed the death of gender roles and expectations, as they're just a poison in contemporary society.
