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A Gay Question - 2147483647 - 2011-07-06
Why do couples try to pair up so that one male is "masculine" and the other is "feminine"? This question also applies to lesbians, though the only active one on SP is Spidey.
A Gay Question - SaptaZapta - 2011-07-06
What makes you think they do?
A Gay Question - Shidoshi - 2011-07-06
I've heard that there are a lot of gays looking for the more masculine partners too (and they are apparently rarer), I don't think all do though.
A Gay Question - Daku - 2011-07-06
That's not always the case. On the websites i visit there's ads that describe the person as masculine looking for another masculine man.
A Gay Question - 2147483647 - 2011-07-06
I'm not asking whether they do or not. I'm asking why it happens, because then they can just look for the opposite gender and become a part of mainstream society. For the record, most of the gays I know have the mentality stated in the first post.
A Gay Question - xBTAx - 2011-07-06
2147483647 Wrote:I'm not asking whether they do or not. I'm asking why it happens, because then they can just look for the opposite gender and become a part of mainstream society. For the record, most of the gays I know have the mentality stated in the first post.
The problem is that you're asking why something happens when it might not actually happen at all.
A Gay Question - 2147483647 - 2011-07-06
Trust me, it happens.
A Gay Question - OB3LISK - 2011-07-06
You're not gay how can I trust you.
A Gay Question - 2147483647 - 2011-07-06
Statistically speaking, it happens.
A Gay Question - Kalovale - 2011-07-06
Some men are into masculine women and vice versa as well. I assume sexual orientation and personality are not entirely intertwined.
A Gay Question - sicnarf - 2011-07-06
2147483647 Wrote:I'm not asking whether they do or not. I'm asking why it happens, because then they can just look for the opposite gender and become a part of mainstream society. For the record, most of the gays I know have the mentality stated in the first post.
Would you go out with a really feminine guy?
A Gay Question - Kalovale - 2011-07-06
sicnarf Wrote:Would you go out with a really feminine guy?
Ice cream lady.
A Gay Question - 2147483647 - 2011-07-06
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A Gay Question - sicnarf - 2011-07-06
Then why would a gay person go out with someone of the opposite sex?
Kalovale Wrote:Ice cream lady.
A Gay Question - OB3LISK - 2011-07-06
Kalovale Wrote:Some men are into masculine women and vice versa as well. I assume sexual orientation and personality are not entirely intertwined.
No...no I don't think so.
A Gay Question - Kalovale - 2011-07-06
OB3LISK Wrote:No...no I don't think so.&
2147483647 Wrote:No. I'm not gay. The only person I would consider going out with is my favorite person, and she's a girl. She's also not on the feminine end of the spectrum; she's in between.
I think that's the whole point he's making (as I was). Levels of femininity/masculinity do not change the sexual orientation of the person.
A Gay Question - Panacea - 2011-07-06
Opposites attract.
A Gay Question - ElectricSix - 2011-07-06
Hmm, I guess everyone likes to have someone they can "lean on"? At least that's my guess as to what you meant with masculine personality. I'd say that the best couples are able to swap gender "roles" as needed or wanted and can effectively be what their partner needs at different times. Sometimes a person needs to feel relied on, sometimes they need to have someone to rely on, sometimes you want to be in the arms of the one you love, sometimes you want to hold the person you love, etc. <.< Hmm, dunno if that really answered things, but whatever.
A Gay Question - Loose - 2011-07-06
It's a matter of preference. Just like some guys prefer tomboy and girls want a sensitive.
A Gay Question - FrozNlite - 2011-07-07
Kalovale Wrote:I think that's the whole point he's making (as I was). Levels of femininity/masculinity do not change the sexual orientation of the person.
This. Duh.
And what Loose said. It's all a matter of preference. Would you say that, statistically speaking, couples of ANY sexual orientation gravitate towards "masculine/feminine" or "dominant/passive" dualisms? Perhaps, but there are plenty of instances where that's not the case, enough so to make this thread slightly ridiculous as to not provide this as an option. I'd fit this perfectly, as I don't mind clear-cut dualism every now and then, but would ultimately prefer a partner where gender roles are fluid/undefined. Physicality and personality fits the given situation, with (obviously) changes fluctuating in the realm of personality and the physicality to inherently, adequately, contribute to either role.