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Corner of Woe - Lantisca - 2011-06-27
[COLOR="royalblue"]So without getting into great detail, I suppose I'd like to just vent here and see what replies I may get out of it. I'm a firm believer in that ideas are what make the world go 'round, so I'd like to think I'm a very open-minded person. Hence, why I may need your help.
Lately I've just been feeling a bit "under the weather" to say the least. As stated above, I won't go into detail, but it has to do with certain people in my life (or rather a lack thereof even). I feel as if I give people my all and who I really am, and I try to be as nice as possible to them, and all they wind up doing is shove trash in my face.
Do you suppose I should try and just weed out the people whom I don't find compatible with my interests and morales, or do you suppose it's fine to have some major differences and clashes? I know you won't always find people who are "perfect" with your interests, but does that mean I should have to necessarily "swoop down to their level and be their friends" just because we have a few things in common?
Thanks in advance, and apologies if this is too "LiveJournal" or blog-ish for this type of forum.[/COLOR]
Corner of Woe - Kurtle - 2011-06-27
Lantisca Wrote:Thanks in advance, and apologies if this is too "LiveJournal" or blog-ish for this type of forum.
Look at the bar just above. We have blogs for this type of thing.
Corner of Woe - Lantisca - 2011-06-27
Kurtle Wrote:Look at the bar just above. We have blogs for this type of thing.Ah, I suppose I didn't think it mattered much. If it does though, then I won't do it anymore. Thanks for the info.
Corner of Woe - Panacea - 2011-06-27
It sounds like you're letting people take advantage of you; I have the same problem.
You don't need to always give people your all just so they'll like you/be your friend. Keep it within reason- avoid stretching yourself to your limits just to accommodate to another's wishes.
Learn to say no here and there when you don't want to/don't have time to do a favor. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
Corner of Woe - Lantisca - 2011-06-27
Panacea Wrote:It sounds like you're letting people take advantage of you; I have the same problem.Thanks for the advice, I'll definately try to keep that in mind. C:
You don't need to always give people your all just so they'll like you/be your friend. Keep it within reason- avoid stretching yourself to your limits just to accommodate to another's wishes.
Learn to say no here and there when you don't want to/don't have time to do a favor.
Panacea Wrote:Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.Win. This is one of my favorite quotes ever, if not THE most favorite.
Corner of Woe - Worthyness - 2011-06-27
If you're still in school, join a random club and meet new people. Sometimes you just have to look at something from a new angle. Keep in the good spirit of things because optimism is what gets everyone through the day. Keep doing what you're doing; don't let others get you down; and live life like you feel it should be. Hope all goes well within the near future.
Corner of Woe - Lantisca - 2011-06-28
Worthyness Wrote:If you're still in school, join a random club and meet new people. Sometimes you just have to look at something from a new angle. Keep in the good spirit of things because optimism is what gets everyone through the day. Keep doing what you're doing; don't let others get you down; and live life like you feel it should be. Hope all goes well within the near future.[COLOR="royalblue"]I'm not in school at the moment, but aye, thank you for that very good piece of advice. I feel as if I definately let people stomp all over me/take advantage of me, so that shall have to stop. I suppose it's rather hard to do sometimes though when you always try to be the nice guy. It's not that I mind helping people when I can; in fact, I love helping people. But I suppose it can come with the territory of being used, and I have to realize that not everyone (or hardly anyone) will give two rats about me like I do about them. It's just an adjustment I guess I need to learn how to control.
I realize this entire discussion is so generic though, and for that itself, I apologize, but I'd rather not air out my dirty laundry in specifics for not only drama reasons, but security ones as well. Hehee~ x'D[/COLOR]