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Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Felicitates - 2011-06-04
The fact that you're letting people get you down on a children's game internet forum proves that you have some manning up to do.
And her response?
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Link - 2011-06-04
Delicae Wrote:The fact that you're letting people get you down on a children's game internet forum proves that you have some manning up to do.
And her response?
Internet forum for a child's video game or not, there are still feelings. People have feelings -- some can be more affected by them and you are real people on the other side of the screen, right? You, as a real Human being, putting him down affects him in real life, whether you think he should be affected by it or not. Give the guy a break.
As for the topic at hand : Sorry, Chris. I'm not experienced in this either. I wish I could help, but I've never had a girlfriend or anyone interested in me at all to give you advice about anything. =/
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-06-04
Delicae Wrote:The fact that you're letting people get you down on a children's game internet forum proves that you have some manning up to do.
And her response?
Oh they're not getting me down, I'm just annoyed at how many people are telling me basically how easy it should be to tell her. It's not...for me at least.
She told me something along the lines of "Oh, I can't, I really need to concentrate on studying this weekend. Shouldn't you be studying too?!?"
The conversation ended with a couple of "good lucks".
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Dyxanije - 2011-06-04
Baklava Wrote:I'm doing the best I can -- I'm not exactly the sexiest, most confident guy in the world so things like this just aren't easy for me, at least as easy as everyone makes it seem.
I expected at least a few of you would understand how that feels.
I know that feel, bro.
Have you tried arranging a dinner after finals but before she goes back home?
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Felicitates - 2011-06-04
Baklava Wrote:Oh they're not getting me down, I'm just annoyed at how many people are telling me basically how easy it should be to tell her. It's not...for me at least.
She told me something along the lines of "Oh, I can't, I really need to concentrate on studying this weekend. Shouldn't you be studying too?!?"
The conversation ended with a couple of "good lucks".
Atleast she cares about how you're doing.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - BlueRuin - 2011-06-04
Baklava Wrote:Oh they're not getting me down, I'm just annoyed at how many people are telling me basically how easy it should be to tell her. It's not...for me at least.
She told me something along the lines of "Oh, I can't, I really need to concentrate on studying this weekend. Shouldn't you be studying too?!?"
The conversation ended with a couple of "good lucks".
Why don't you two study together? Then at least you'd still be spending time with her.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Felicitates - 2011-06-04
BlueRuin Wrote:Why don't you two study together? Then at least you'd still be spending time with her.
Liiiiightbulb~
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Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - White - 2011-06-04
Baklava Wrote:I'm just annoyed at how many people are telling me basically how easy it should be to tell her. It's not...for me at least.
It's not easy, but it's important to push through that and maintain confidence. It appears you're trying pretty hard and that's good, be persistent. It sounds like she's not aware of how you feel about her at all, which is explainable by the fact that she appears to be an overachiever and thus is completely distracted by her studies to realize what you're actually saying. So be more blunt imo. I'd tell her that I like her and i'd really like to spend some time with her before the semester is completely over. Is she free for a casual dinner at this nice sushi bar you know after finals? Think of it like a detox evening to let the finals settle past and look forward to the summer and on.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - 2147483647 - 2011-06-04
Baklava Wrote:She told me something along the lines of "Oh, I can't, I really need to concentrate on studying this weekend. Shouldn't you be studying too?!?"
The conversation ended with a couple of "good lucks".
If you cared about her too, you'd let her study and do well.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - White - 2011-06-04
2147483647 Wrote:If you cared about her too, you'd let her study and do well.
Zzzzzzz, clearly you don't see that she is very competent and takes her academics very seriously. As such, i'm sure she is capable of doing well on her finals, in accordance with undoubtedly her acceptable pre-finals grade, and spending a little time with a guy she's gotten to know and enjoy the company of.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - >Pineapple - 2011-06-05
Confidence is key. It's the reason women typically prefer jocks over nerds in highschool (yeah, not always the physical issue).
And not really, some people really do just take studying that seriously and don't want to waste any time at all.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Flonne - 2011-06-05
Kalovale Wrote:Absolutely no experience so I'll just be here to root you on spiritually.
bump
Although, if you overspend on her now, she will expect it in the future, even if subconsciously; that's fine I guess if you have a ton of money to throw around, but I'll assume you don't?
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Sarah - 2011-06-05
Phoning her wasn't a bad option, don't listen to what they say. Walking to her place to ask her on a date is absolutely ridiculous, haha. Phoning is the next best thing, texting or facebook messages are pathetic. Wait until after exams and then do it. Remember DO NOT UNLOAD ON HER. It's really late now and it's unlikely that anything will happen but at the very least it's some good experience and you could have an enjoyable dinner.
Good luck, Baklava.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - DeanNim - 2011-06-05
Sarah Wrote:Remember DO NOT UNLOAD ON HER.
priceless sarah quote.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Kalovale - 2011-06-06
Baklava Wrote:Oh they're not getting me down, I'm just annoyed at how many people are telling me basically how easy it should be to tell her. It's not...for me at least.
She told me something along the lines of "Oh, I can't, I really need to concentrate on studying this weekend. Shouldn't you be studying too?!?"
The conversation ended with a couple of "good lucks".
We know that feel, bro. If you want to be persistent, which I hope you do, try following up on her wordings and invite her again after whatever's happening "this weekend". It could've been a polite excuse, or it could've been a legitimate reason, you won't know until you've tried again.
And just in case, bring out all your pessimism and pose possible bad turns of event here so we can sketch out countermeasurements for each of them, since it seems to me you kinda suck at both perseverance (when things don't go as planned, you often back away, don't you?) and impromptu improvisation.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Blaine - 2011-06-08
Asking her out in person would be the best, although, as Sarah said, don't walk to her house, just ask her whenever you're at school or whatever. I'd say ask her to lunch, dinner's for after you're actually dating.