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What would you tell 16 year old you? - holycow - 2014-03-11
Nothing much that I can think of, mainly because every decision I've made (good or bad) had led me to where I am today, so I don't think changing the past might be good... It could bring me up, but it could also bring me down
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Icedemontrihorn - 2014-03-11
"Stick to Street Fighter 4 and not maple"
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Liable - 2014-03-11
I'm not sure if this makes you feel better but my reliance/dependency on my parents dropped significantly as soon as I finished my HSC.
I picked up a casual night-shift work at Target which paid pretty good. My academic fees(uni) did not need to be paid for because of HECS (does this still exist for you guys?) and textbooks could easily be purchased with the pay from work. All you'll really need is accomodation (and someone/parent paying the rates). I continued with the night shift all throughout uni and had enough time to study, work and socialise.
I don't think you should be too concerned of your current situation or possible situation you'll be in.
[insert "Let it be" YT video]
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Sardines - 2014-03-12
When I was sixteen I studied hard and did things in order to get ahead. I didn't always know the right method, however I had pride in finding how to do things by myself. I've never been an efficiently savvy person and I was always incredibly stubborn. Listening to a 'future me' probably wouldn't have much of an effect with respect to where I am right now.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Aubog007 - 2014-03-12
holycow Wrote:Nothing much that I can think of, mainly because every decision I've made (good or bad) had led me to where I am today, so I don't think changing the past might be good... It could bring me up, but it could also bring me down
This would be my second answer to the question.
I never regret anything that has happened in my life, for each thing that has happened shaped me, built me, all the experiences make me who I am today, for better or for worse, and if i change one thing, i would be gambling with my own personality.
The thing to take from this is...
Don't ever live a life of regrets, if you regret something, spin that thought around, turn it into a positive. Instead of "Damn, i should have asked that chick out," think about it, would she have been nothing more than just cheap thrills? A powerful romance? Your own inaction shaped who you are today.
Think about it.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Sardines - 2014-03-12
I love how relationship advice is heavily polarized. On one end people regret not asking someone out, on the other end people regret the bad relationship they had with someone else.
Aubog007 Wrote:This would be my second answer to the question. I never regret anything that has happened in my life, for each thing that has happened shaped me, built me, all the experiences make me who I am today, for better or for worse, and if i change one thing, i would be gambling with my own personality.
Your personality must be a wonderful thing to have if you don't regret what you lost in order to have the mindset you have today.
Aubog Wrote:The thing to take from this is... Don't ever live a life of regrets, if you regret something, spin that thought around, turn it into a positive. Instead of "Damn, i should have asked that chick out," think about it, would she have been nothing more than just cheap thrills? A powerful romance? Your own inaction shaped who you are today. Think about it.
Spinning around a regret doesn't mean you never had that regret in the first place or that you don't hold a regret with respect to the moment. Having regrets can be a powerful emotional stimulus for good or for bad. People are too quick to write off their mistakes and look at things optimistically rather than to adopt a realistic mentality of the situation. "Your own inaction shaped who you are today" is a laughable concept. If you attribute the day to accomplishing nothing then you incurred a net loss with respect to your human capital. Aging makes you less appealing to the job market and also brings health problems that will require maintenance and other considerations in the future. The economic ramification is that inflation is going to rise 3% annually and not to mention that the world just inched a bit closer to a net loss in natural resource capital because it was moving ahead while you did nothing. Arable land was reduced in order for a new road to be paved, a new residential lot to be added to a developing suburbia, and liters of water have been contaminated radioactively or chemically from industry run off. Not only does cost of life get expensive as days progress, but the quality of life itself will likely be reduced as industry comes to rely on genetic modification, pesticides, and pollution in order to meet the status quo of their current business models. It's hard, so hard, to try to spin it differently.
With respect to relationships, they are hit and miss. However, I could never personally find them engaging when the way the job market is moving is for individuals to have highly polished qualities and talent that requires a huge time investment that tends to be detracted by being in a relationship with someone else who might or might not stick with you in the long run. Not to mention the fact that everything is just more expensive than it used to be. To consume gas, consume food, and take her to a movie or somewhere else in addition to the planning you have to do out of schedule when you could have been working could run up a bill you could have spent just buying a hand held or possibly a home console. It's hard for me to come to terms with wining and dining someone else, when often times I'm barely making ends meet by myself.
And then I realized a great opportunity I could have here. Oh boy.
I would tell myself to not go into life science: biology, chemistry, biochemistry, or any of it. There's no money in life science unless you choose to specialize. And at the end of four more years of supplemental schooling I became jaded enough with the system to find out that my classes were primarily just there to discourage people from advancing their future in the field of study. Other people who have studied life science should be able to relate to what I'm getting across here that the norm student in a science major isn't someone who gets deeply passionate out of nowhere and starts gushing about isotopes or the newest method of sampling DNA. The textbook method of delivery is dry and doesn't encourage an open engagement to the learning process. You are expected to do a lot of learning on your own, however the independent method of study isn't what is rewarded in the paper tests and laboratory protocol.
If the professor highlights something, you memorize it. If the professor shows you something specific in class, you learn it. There are five classes with fix textbooks that are around 800+ pages each and you need to go through around 75 pages a day of each subject in a week for each class meaning you roughly go through around 375 pages of text-based learning in a week if you have the time to cover everything in addition to recapping lecture, lecture notes, test banks, and other resources just to score well on the paper test. Your professors actually don't expect you to read the entire textbook nor do they think you're interested in actually reading it. It is also highly questionable whether they even enjoy teaching or care if their knowledge is being disseminated in the best way possible v. the most efficient way possible through a large body of students. Once you finish a body of information, you can forget it or discard most of it rather than trying to draw from it again. It won't help you advance and is usually recapped in the next class.
Entry level jobs are hard to get and also pay is scaled by contracting companies to be set around $15-$20 an hour meaning your net income when you get out is going to be roughly $40,000-$50,000 if you get into a major company. Opportunities to move up are allowed, but depending on industry it can be highly volatile. If you are doing a research on a drug and running sample tests, once that drug goes through clinical testing it's questionable whether you are even needed. Once the drug has been developed you could be out, once your phase of drug testing is done you could be out, once the drug has passed and marketed you could be out. The job market is a lot like studying. Get what you need, then get out. However, with that type of mentality you could have developed a skill set in a different area like computer science or business that will have a much higher initial pay out for the bachelor's degree in science if you had a high affinity for the material. In other words, for life science the market just generally sucks if you're fresh off the boat. I will say that STEM scholarships are fantastic, but you can still get that through engineering, mathematics, computer science.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Aubog007 - 2014-03-12
I just gave an extremely broad answer because I currently don't have time to deeply explain my answer and thought process, I know my personality isn't the best, simply because I chose to give the best "right" answer. Considering I am rather notorious for not even taking advice due to my own stubbornness, however I am content to live my life as how I see fit, not spending years grasping at fantasies and dreams, for that is something, incidentally shortly after age 16, i learned.
I guess you could say, I wouldn't take any advice, because I have made peace with myself over the past 8 years. And peace is something I wouldn't trade for anything.
Advice is advice, mock it, or take it, or expand upon it, ultimately, it is your choice.
As long as it is read and thought about, I believe i made an effect, however small it may be.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Sardines - 2014-03-12
Aubog007 Wrote:I just gave an extremely broad answer because I currently don't have time to deeply explain my answer and thought process. Advice is advice, mock it, or take it, or expand upon it, ultimately, it is your choice.
I found it interesting and just offered a response. I think [MENTION=12978]Jazeon[/MENTION] asked me why I was asking him questions with respect to what he wrote in another thread. I didn't answer because I wasn't really convinced I had a reason. However, I came to the conclusion after this post that I just write responses to whatever I want to respond to or find needs a response. I'm just as impartial as you are to whether you take it or not. When I see certain responses, I just have a congestion of thoughts that come up with respect to a certain post and I just try to get everything I can recall about the topic off my chest.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Sephie - 2014-03-12
I'd tell myself to stop being a stubborn brat and learn Korean. Turns out not being able to talk to half your family and relatives later in life is really sad and annoying, moreso depressing. What's worse is that everyone in my family speaks Korean or is bilingual <_<
Also, I'd probably stop myself from getting involved with MapleStory... I'd have so much more money to spend on a computer... and shoes... ;s
Though, if I really had the chance to meet myself, before anything I'd probably slap her and kick her butt so hard... because I know I deserved it at that age. I wasn't the most upstanding teenager I should have been :x
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Niernen - 2014-03-12
A summer job is good. Keeps you busy and earns you money. Save that money. Don't spend it on nx. DO NOT SPEND IT ON NX.
Take college applications more serious. And Highschool for that matter.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Declaimed - 2014-03-12
KhainiWest Wrote:avoid maplestory all together
Marcellow Wrote:Don't ever go back to your ex-girlfriend
MariaColette Wrote:Don't let the jerks in high school get to you
MariaColette Wrote:Embrace who you are
Niernen Wrote:Save that money. Don't spend it on nx. DO NOT SPEND IT ON NX.
Niernen Wrote:Take college applications more serious. And highschool for that matter.
All of my bases have been just about covered by previous posts, with a few differences:
-Don't let any jerks get to you; They don't go away after highschool, and a large portion of them won't mature for many years to come, believe it or not.
-I wouldn't quite avoid Maplestory altogether, but I'd reduce my time. I have a lot of wonderful memories on that game. I think I'd lean more towards, "When the game gets boring, the changes become too steep, all of your friends stop playing and the miracle cubes make their way in, quit.
I didn't really take school seriously until I got a little older. Twelve-to-sixteen me could barely be bothered to give enough fucks, but thankfully I managed to get a hold of the situation in time, and everything turned out okay in the end.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Imitazion - 2014-03-12
Lift more.
Work harder.
Quit Maplestory before NX becomes attractive.
Seriously, I would've been rich if I hadn't played.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Words - 2014-03-12
I'd tell myself to be more "careful" with the people I wanted to be friends with; most of them were terrible influences back then, and most of them were actually older than me. I actually had to stop myself from hanging out with some of them when I got much older, so it could save some time and bad experiences. The few friends that I still hang out with I feel more comfortable with, despite being a wreck when we were 16, we actually grew up and we aren't so damn stupid anymore.
I'd tell myself to try and keep a cooler head when horny. To this day I still regret hooking up with girls I didn't like at all... and I regret it so much more when those girls actually liked me and I just took advantage of it. As for girlfriends... I don't regret much, other than stupid mistakes that can't be avoided everything went okish with them so I wouldn't say anything about it.
I would tell myself how to deal with school, since I hated it but found a way around it (when I was 18 -_-) that wouldn't stop me from getting into college. But I'd also recommend getting a job to not become a lazy pineapple. As for gaming I'd tell myself to avoid mmorpgs in general, especially "f2p" shits that have no value whatsoever. I'm ok with how I've dealt with family all along.
That's about it.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Felicitates - 2014-03-12
Stop playing Maplestory.
Don't be afraid to apply to art school.
Put yourself first.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Satellite - 2014-03-12
Spend less time on the computer and more time with real life friends. Didn't really hang out with my old rl friends after age 16 because at that age you're done with compulsory education in Finland and we all applied to different schools. In the "equivalent" of high school here, faces would change every course, so although I got many friends there, I didn't end up spending time with them outside school.
If I had been more social, maybe I woud have a girlfriend already. But here I am, 20 and zero experience with women.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - TheHatMadder - 2014-03-12
1) Don't sell yourself short; there's more upstairs than you care to realize, and fear of uncertainty isn't going to get you very far.
2) Don't let your parental grudges mold your outlook on them... There will come a time when you'll realize how hard they were trying and how difficult life is without having a safety net.
3) Cheer up, emo kid. In no time, you'll work yourself out of that phase. Most of those people who keep "pestering" you are the same ones that will be standing by your side when you get your degree. That moment, when it all comes to fruition, you'll cherish them more than anything you ever had in your youth.
And, most importantly, keep on keeping on.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - Stereo - 2014-03-12
李船長 Wrote:You're gay and accept it. Don't waste a year of our life not going to school trying to deny it.
And also don't be such a plantain to your parents.. and have high standards too while you're at it... and be more self confident ffs
Not quite this obviously, but I would give younger-me some books on sexuality/gender that actually explain it, unlike public school 'sex-ed'.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - xparasite9 - 2014-03-19
Stereo Wrote:Not quite this obviously, but I would give younger-me some books on sexuality/gender that actually explain it, unlike public school 'sex-ed'.
hey man it's just a narrow anatomy and physiology course, not psychology.
What would you tell 16 year old you? - MuscleWizard - 2014-03-19
xparasite9 Wrote:My life already was ruined by that point.
I guess "stay the pineapple away from MapleStory"
pretty much this
What would you tell 16 year old you? - x3repentance - 2014-03-19
There's pretty much only three things which comes to mind at the moment if i could tell my past self this :
1 - Every lottery ticket number so that i don't have to painstakingly earn all the cash i've gotten up to now.
I understand the idea of an honest living but getting an easier means to a more comfortable life is something i would love to have during my younger days.
2 - Lay off the stuck up and arrogant attitude and flaming tendencies which pops out once in a while.
This has left a very bad taste in my tongue after much consideration and soul-searching that i was not a very positive person throughout my life.
All the more said for my time back in the olden days in a forum called "Asiasoft Forums" where i have made some blunders in my postings, decisions and handing of certain matters.
I would certainly like to tell myself to not be so immature and be more objective in life.
3 - Continue pursuing what i chose to pursue since it was my goal and dream.
I'm not exactly there yet but its the inspiration which made me who i am today.